Long story short. My addicted Brother lives with my mom. He does take care of her meals pretty well but he is stealing from her. Even her banker was concerned and was about to call APS herself. I have POA. She still has ability to write checks and can manage the basics. She has some short term memory issues but is fully functional otherwise. She allows him to live with her. Dad has passes. The rest of my siblings and I filed a complaint of elder abuse. It is unlikely she will press charges. Could he be arrested anyway? Would he be allowed to live there if found guilty. Our DA has public ally taking a hearse stance against elder abuse. I guess I would like to hear was the outcome has been for others in the same situation. We feel we are going in blind . Also the abuser is aggressive and has threatened some siblings in the past. Which adds to our stress about the situation.
Please keep us informed as this unfolds. We learn from each other.