When does retirement come for us?

Welcome to the Boomer Sandwich Generation. After my father died in 1987, my mother moved in with me and my two younger daughters. I remarried after the girls had left home, and my mother still lived with us. After 25 years, I started having panic attacks as she became more dependent on me. Two doctors told me that I needed to place her in assisted living.

It is the best advise I have ever received. I have my life back, I supervise mother's care, and I will be retiring in 28 weeks. I am going to have a retirement that I have earned without any guilt.

in most cases i know only one daughter or son is making this extraordinary sacrifice . forget estate division -- i think compensation should go down at the time of the caregiving to the point there is nothing left for non contributing sibs ..
i never began drawing up a caregiver agreement till it was legally necessary . in hindsight one sis walked away with her prize of 9 k and another with the family home -- which i didnt want .. mom and i should have spent that s**t up on our comfort ..