My wife is bed ridden and now has stopped eating. She is getting very weak she drinks water but not enough.
She is 79 and also has MS. She says it hurts every time she is moved. She has substantially declined in the last 3 weeks but refuses to go to the ER.
This is a discussion for you and your wife to have with the doctor. Then arrangements can be made for Hospice interviews and evaluations.
I am so sorry for all your wife is going through and I wish you both the best.
But, Barb said that already.
The above is a link to a fact sheet put out by the Hospice Foundation of America.
It specifically notes that the patient or family can contact a hospice organization directly if they have difficulty getting a referral from their own doctor.
If not, call the local Area Agency on Aging and ask to be referred to a mobile doctor, or a telemed vist.
Or call a local hospice provider (non profits are preferred by most of us here) and ask for the best way to b proceed.