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I've had to have gentle, small and frequent discussions with my mom about this. We have agreed that I will do what it takes to keep her in her home as long as it works for BOTH of us. I have my own home to manage and upkeep, still work and have kids and a grandkid who lives with us. I've diplomatically made it clear that there would be no point in having me (and my entire family) orbit around her just so she can have the illusion of independence and living out a romanticized notion of aging/dying in place. Too exhausting, too expensive, too unrealistic.
You don't mention how old or what condition your parents are in, but if they're over 70 I think moving to a house makes no sense whatsoever knowing they will be less and less able to keep it up (or pay the mortgage). It is not easy to just hire people for yardwork, maintenance, cleaning...there is a population drop and labor shortage. It will be neither easy, nor inexpensive nor fast! And, someone (you) will eventually need to coordinate it all. This is IN ADDITION to any other care you are choosing to provide, like taking them to doctor visits, managing meds, overseeing their finances... If you are PoA and your parents are "assuming" you will ramp up care of them as they age, this arrangement needs to work for you or you will burn out. This will probably disappoint your parents briefly, but if they are reasonable people they will see the wisdom in their NOT buying another house. Honestly, they should consider going into a senior community (IL) that has a continuum of graduated care levels. It would be the best "gift" they could ever give their children. It's the best way to age "gracefully". Good luck!
When the home no longer works for them. Look up IADLs and ADLs to acquaint yourself of these living skills anyone needs to remain independent. A smaller home is sometimes a good idea but not always. Location. Access to amenities. Taxes. Ability to safely ambulate. Many factors to consider. The local Area Agency on Aging (each county has one) can do an assessment of the parent and help determine what services they need now or in the near future. This should help make an appropriate decision for your parent. Note: Look up Atul Gawande’s book “Being Mortal, Medicine and What Matters in the End”. It’s a good book to read if you haven’t on helping a parent live their best life all the way to the end of their life.
This can get confusing as after a certain age it is not about wants, it is about needs and making rational decisions. Many seniors stay in their homes much too long, they have a façade of independence but that is all it is, everyone is doing something for them, so that they can pretend that they are independent.
Moving them into an Independent Living apartment, with a step up program would most likely be ideal. What is the purpose of buying another home at their age? Does this really make any financial sense? Why not invest the proceeds from the home so that a cash flow stream can be in place for their future?
A parent should move BEFORE it becomes necessary and an emergency for them TO be moved, by us, the children, after they fall and break a hip or get hospitalized for pneumonia, etc and have the rehab or hospital refuse to release them back to independent living. The best thing would be to get your parent into an Independent Living senior complex that has a continuum of care.......so s/he can segue from IL into Assisted Living or Skilled Nursing should the need arise. It's not really about what they 'want' after a certain age, but what they need for their safety and well being. And what's required so that we are not called every hour to come fix another crisis that's a result of their 'independent' living situation. That's not 'independence' at all if they're reliant on us for everything!
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
You don't mention how old or what condition your parents are in, but if they're over 70 I think moving to a house makes no sense whatsoever knowing they will be less and less able to keep it up (or pay the mortgage). It is not easy to just hire people for yardwork, maintenance, cleaning...there is a population drop and labor shortage. It will be neither easy, nor inexpensive nor fast! And, someone (you) will eventually need to coordinate it all. This is IN ADDITION to any other care you are choosing to provide, like taking them to doctor visits, managing meds, overseeing their finances... If you are PoA and your parents are "assuming" you will ramp up care of them as they age, this arrangement needs to work for you or you will burn out. This will probably disappoint your parents briefly, but if they are reasonable people they will see the wisdom in their NOT buying another house. Honestly, they should consider going into a senior community (IL) that has a continuum of graduated care levels. It would be the best "gift" they could ever give their children. It's the best way to age "gracefully". Good luck!
Look up IADLs and ADLs to acquaint yourself of these living skills anyone needs to remain independent.
A smaller home is sometimes a good idea but not always. Location. Access to amenities. Taxes. Ability to safely ambulate. Many factors to consider.
The local Area Agency on Aging (each county has one) can do an assessment of the parent and help determine what services they need now or in the near future. This should help make an appropriate decision for your parent.
Note: Look up Atul Gawande’s book “Being Mortal, Medicine and What Matters in the End”. It’s a good book to read if you haven’t on helping a parent live their best life all the way to the end of their life.
Moving them into an Independent Living apartment, with a step up program would most likely be ideal. What is the purpose of buying another home at their age? Does this really make any financial sense? Why not invest the proceeds from the home so that a cash flow stream can be in place for their future?
Good Luck!
Best of luck!