How to determine when she shouldn't live alone? I am the sole caregiver to my mother. I have a sister but she is not present but every few months. My mom can no longer drive and her house is a mess. Is there counseling for caregivers to approach my mother delicately. She can be mean and stubborn and has lost her reasoning skills. She is 87 (going to be 88 in a couple of months). I really would like to consult with someone on how best to approach her and also to get some support emotionally dealing with the situation.
you dont want to disrupt your lives and make sacrifices right now but i wonder if youll expect your daughter to uproot , lose a career , wages , etc when the time comes that you do need help .
this resonated with me for a reason . i stayed with my mom for about 3 years . she had a bipolar episode that hospitalized her and she ended up in an AL for a couple of months . i was pretty ill myself at the time from burnout , asked her if she would live at my new house so i could get on with my life -- nothing doing , so i trudged back to her home till she passed away 3 + yrs later from dementia . it was selfish of her and she admitted that but she loved her home . ( i loved mine too )
i love and appreciate her but those are 6 yrs from my life that could have went differently .