Dad and I have been living at home together. He's had a head injury and can't walk. If he stands up alone, he'll fall. Tonight I peeked into his room and happened to see him trying to stand up. He told me he was going to go upstairs and get a good book to read. There's no way he can actually do that. Right now I'm spending the night awake on the floor in his bedroom. I can't do this forever. If he's going to keep thinking he can stand, we won't be able to keep living here together. What do I do? Where can he live where he will be safe?
Go to different places, they will tell you just what you want to hear. While there talk to some of the residents, they will tell you how it is or go back and talk to the residents and listen to how the workers talk to them. You would be amazed at what you will find out doing this.
I give you credit for seeing where him being safe is the issue. That is what it comes down to and believe me -- 99.9% of people don't really want to put their family in homes , they have to for safty reasons. It takes a lot to be that strong. I know, I had to deal with that decision with my grandmother and my son's greatgrandmother. So hold you head up, you are on the right track.