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I’m puzzled. During the day my mom doesn’t like anything including me. She doesn’t talk much and when she does it’s negative.
Says I do everything wrong and am horrible. She doesn’t care about anyone eg the other day I put my back out lifting her, she had no interest.


She is confused and depressed, I feel very sorry for her.


At night when I take her to bed she becomes talkative and says nice things to me. Thanks me for stuff etc , tells me how she can see all I do for her. She is also concerned about her family.


Any idea why her mood changes just before she goes to sleep?
The night mood is like my mom always was, it’s nice to catch a glimpse of that.

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My 99-yr old aunt with mod/adv dementia does the same thing. Mostly awful all day (especially during sundowning) but as soon as I was putting her in bed at night she'd go on and on thanking me (and the other family caregivers) and acknowledging how hard it must be. It's our glimpse of her prior self every single night. And we're so grateful for that mercy.
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You don't mention in your profile that Mom has Dementia but you do say she is confused so I will assume she does. I think Grandma's explanation is a good one. Those suffering from dementia can get over stimulated. My Mom, every so often would close her eyes. Sit and talk to you, all the time keeping her eyes shut. And when she did this, she made more sense than she did when her eyes were open.
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There could be so many reasons and without your mom actually telling you...and you know that won't happen...and on a conscious level she may not even know she is doing this. But here are some maybes...
At bed time she is tired and is allowing he brain to just wander and "be itself" rather than trying to "hold it together" or process all that is going on around her.

Sundowning usually causes negative mood swings. It might be possible that your moms brain shifts the other way and she becomes m ore complacent.

At bedtime things are winding down, she is less stimulated by activity around her less noise, maybe the light is a bit dimmer so she can focus just on you. And likewise you are focused just on her. A little bit of "girl time".
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