My mother wit Alzheimer's has been in her assisted living facility for over a month now. She calls me constantly wanting me to come and get her and bring her to my house for a few hours. I try to keep it to every 3 days and gradually taper from that (just to acclimate her to the facility), but how do I keep from feeling guilty if I do not? My family is desperately trying to get back to normal and I am worn out!
the self esteem of maturity is neither grandiose nor omnipotent but accompanied by an awareness of ones own human frailties and limitations.
i aint superman iz what im saying. there are things too big for us as individuals. knowing when to change gears is the key.
If you keep jumping every time she calls, she is not able to accept that it's her new home. She is hoping it is not, you know that. But, your survival, that is your number one priority. Remember the oxygen mask theory. Put yours on first or you cannot help anyone else. No guilt. Live. Take a good break! Yay!!! xoxo
My father passed away at the end of April and one would think that my brother could step in, but he's been nothing but a nuisance and a threat to not only my safety, but to my mother's psychological state. I posted a question about this either last week or the week before and am pursuing legal action against him and emergency guardianship.
That being said, there are some friends around who could keep her company, and I do have a planned vacation, but not until August.