I'm curious and a bit suspicious as to why step mom's distant family would go through hoops to reach out after many many years of no contact. Step mom is under hospice and at end of life. Step mom never had children but Dad does. Other than being polite, what else could they possible want?
I did a bit of skimming and I believe that since my mom was never adopted by her step mom she really wouldn't be entitled to anything. As I've stated before, the Dad, my granddad was tragically killed many years ago and I'm sure the money from that incident is long gone.
Thanks everyone!
My daughter was adopted by my DH. Her bio Dad died intestate. Daughters adoption papers read that bio Dad was giving up his rights and she gave up hers to anything of bio Dad. So SIL got a lawyer and he requested a copy of daughters adoption papers. We r sure it was to prove Daughter had no rights to bioDads estate. That as next of Kin his half sister and brother inherited. Lawyer has never gotten back to my daughter so will assume his sister got everything.
First thanks to all who have chimed in so far.
I spoke directly to the niece of my mom's step mom, my step grandmother and she restated that she is at end of life and wanted to let her step children know. She further stated that should would be visiting the nursing home tomorrow and would keep us updated.
I'm still not certain if pending death is the reason for the contact.
A bit of backstory: step mom/grandmother came received a large settlement as a result of my dad/granddad's death over three decades ago. I doubt if anything is left.
She also shared HUGE genealogy charts with us. They went back hundreds of years. I was grateful that she got in contact with us. No money was ever mentioned.
But maybe kindness..?
I'd be polite but wary.
Or it is possible that someone else in the family has recently passed and now their family is going through papers and "finding" relatives.
If you wish, make contact. Keep it on line for now and see what the purpose of the contact is. If these are "distant" as you indicate they should have no "claim" to any assets that step grandma has. But give no information or confirm any info until you feel comfortable. (And if you have a family lawyer you might want to run it by them if there is a sizable estate)
It is a little late. Question do they want to know how she is? kind of late. Possibly to see if there is any money coming to them. I would send a note to the effect what stage she is in. ....
Could be any monetary benefits they think she may have or possibly guilt for not being involved in her life after all these years.
Either way, I'm with you as to being suspicious and would say to just be cautious when dealing with them and limiting how much and what types of information you share not only about her but, your dad as well as yourself.
Trust your gut instinct if anything else.
I am uncertain what you mean by "reaching out". I would simply tell them that your Mom is unwell and unable to communicate with them. Should they pursue I would tell them that she had no contact with them for _______ years and you are not comfortable sharing any information with them. Wish them well. And that's that.