Her daughter and husband both work full time jobs. Because of that, there is no other one she can trust and depend on. Am I wrong for wanting her to be happy by doing the things I do for her?
Is someone suggesting you do too much? What are you going to do when you need to go back to work? Because, no one should jeopardize their future earnings to care for someone.
What I see here is you enabling your cousin to carry on with her life while you take care of her mother. You will come to resent this. You may get into a hole you cannot get out of. If Aunt needs 24/7 supervision and her daughter is not willing to give it, then Aunt needs to be placed in an Assisted living (if she can afford it) or Longterm care. Or daughter hires aides.
As we age it becomes harder to make changes. But, when we need help to stay in our homes, it may be time to downsize. And we need to learn to except that we are entering another stage of life. And it would be so nice if we would except that. Makes life so much easier for those who do the Caring.
If I were you, I would sit down with cousin and tell her Mom needs more care than any one person can give. As long as you continue to care for her mother, she will not be aware of Moms needs.
Your question didn't post properly. You need to post a heading, then in the next box whatever details you need to write. Try again. Why should anyone say that you are wrong for wanting her to be happy with what you are doing? More information would help us a lot.
What I see here is you enabling your cousin to carry on with her life while you take care of her mother. You will come to resent this. You may get into a hole you cannot get out of. If Aunt needs 24/7 supervision and her daughter is not willing to give it, then Aunt needs to be placed in an Assisted living (if she can afford it) or Longterm care. Or daughter hires aides.
As we age it becomes harder to make changes. But, when we need help to stay in our homes, it may be time to downsize. And we need to learn to except that we are entering another stage of life. And it would be so nice if we would except that. Makes life so much easier for those who do the Caring.
If I were you, I would sit down with cousin and tell her Mom needs more care than any one person can give. As long as you continue to care for her mother, she will not be aware of Moms needs.