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Just for phone? LOL! Who said I didn't need spell-check? I need direct supervision.

I didn't mean phone but FUN.

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bookluvr - glad I could give you a giggle! I found a real keeper with my husband. It's all in the little things. He works long hours in the entertainment industry. Friday night he didn't get home until after I'd gone to bed. Saturday morning he had to get up and be to work at 6 am. I dragged my butt out of bed at 7:30 and found my coffee ready and waiting for me, and Mom's newspaper waiting for her on the coffee table. Nice. Little things. :)
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Your husband sounds just like my favorite sis' hubby. Over 10years of marriage and he still does those little things. Good for you!!
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Lovely picture, babalon!!! I like the real life photos as I can put a face to a post but totally understand people wanting to be incognito. I had mine up but got tired of looking at myself! Haha. Maybe I will post another one.

Bookluvr- it sounds like you are leaving a bunch of broken hearts around your town!! You tease, you! J/k ;0) it has been a loooong time since anyone has made a pass at me. :oP

Eguillot-I have a good husband as well! And he also works in the entertainment biz--well, he makes commercials. ---not so glamorous , really. After almost 18 years of marriage I still get love notes in the morning and my daughter gets a little note as well. We are his girls.
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MishkaM - My husbands job is not glamorous at all. He works behind the scenes in production at a casino showroom. Lots of big names, he does all the video production and is now the technical manager. It is nice to hear of someone else that has a good honey - seems like they're getting harder to find!
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I am certain I know who this catfish is, we threw the *itch out once and if she gets out of hand, we will do it again!

Yes, some people may exaggerate things here and there, we're online, it's not unheard of, but if you hear someone CONSISTENTLY blowing their own horn, AND telling everyone else EXACTLY how it should be done, WHILE they are tearing people apart, AND never admitting to any mistakes or faults of their own. Well there you go.

Why would anyone "catfish" here? It depends on what values they hold dear. Perhaps they value family, or the role of caregiving, or both. Maybe they value teaching or other positions of authority and see themselves as such. If they have access to none of this in their real lives, they may be playing it out here.
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I am amused by the concept of someone trying to influence lives on here. For me, I have so much in my own life to cope with that I come here to see what others are doing, not to preach my way to them and not to blow my own horn. I speak honestly because there is too much guilting, especially from my MIL, the patient, let alone the self-righteous know-it-alls here.
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I only drop in when I see a question I can be helpful with, or to say hello to a friend, respond to a hug. But I do come across this catfish once in a while and when I see it chewing on someone I rip it a new one.
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I haven't found anybody here like that. Most of the readings seem to be from people who are not only burned out but incinerated caregivers without other family members sharing the load. Most of us are looking for answers. I don't have all of them or I wouldn't be so frustrated with my own situation. Other then my MIL's ass, there seems to be no "end" in sight!
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Hi PamelaSue!! welcome back! yes, I know of the catfish you speak of ;)
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Dear Roscoe888--one of the times the shitbomb exploded here, I told myself I don't have a home anymore. I live in a barn. It won't do any good to put up with this--hire a maid if you can to keep the bathrooms spotless, use room deodorizers, maybe keep her from going into certain rooms so you can have some peace somewhere and, if all else fails, hire someone to sit with ol' Poopyhead for an afternoon and see a movie.
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huh?
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FedUp is posting on the wrong thread, PamelaSue. FedUpNow, Roscoe has stated over and over he will NOT invite strangers into their home. I think if you all stopped and read his comments after the title of his thread - you will see this. And he has Consistently repeated his stance.
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why would they come here if they wanted to scam people? its mostly caregivers that are here, not the elderly person that is the target. i havent seen catfishers, this isnt a dating site. i come here when im frustrated as hell and it really helps to know im not alone. nobody has ever asked me to buy or join anything, nobody tries to 'hook up' with me or dad, this is an odd question
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Sebring - not so odd when you find out that a poster on here who attacks a lot of people has made up her entire life. Very easy to find out with a few quick google searches. But this is an old topic anyways....

Hi all. Been busy. Had my my Mom down last week. She is regressing rapidly. ( sigh )
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Hi Mish! I sometimes read ur old comments and then miss you terribly. I figured u will post when you do. By the way, that first time I caught a fish was the last time I went fishing. That's just not my cup of coffee (tea). :)

Sorry to hear about your. How far along is she? HUGS!!!
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I think everyone has an opinion and they will not all be unanimous but they can be informative if read with an open mind.
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Hi Book!!! I miss you too! (((( hugs ))))Just having a really tough school year with my girl. Concentrating on getting her the help she needs.

Glad you are not fishing! Haha. Dangerous waters, me thinks.

Was told her brain stem stroke would make her regress faster than normal and it sure is. She can now barely talk and cannot really feed herself- even with her fingers. She used to be able to walk some but now-- barely. She also is having a lot of visions problems. It is so sad. I am really down right now and feeling b1tchy. So sorry if I am short tempered all. Dealing with my Mom with her needs and my girl's special needs has made me feel so helpless. I just cannot seem to help either of them!

I do miss so many of you. Blessings to you all!!! I keep many of you and your loved ones ( here and in the after life) in my prayers. Hope you all are hanging in there!!!

I will be back soon and post with you all when I am not such a crab a22
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Have never worried about this board really, my theory being , take what works for you and leave the rest. I moderate on another board however and am stunned every day at the number of people that try to scam their way on to that board. It is a constant battle to keep it for the intended purpose.
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I should point out it is my MOM who had the brain stem stroke, not my girl. She has Rubenstein- Taybi Syndrome- my daughter. And is having a lot of behavior issues this year. Sheesh. I am confusing myself.
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MishkaM especially and all those struggling with caregiving issues: I send you all the positive energy I have and wish your lives were easier!
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Hi Mishka! I've missed you! Sorry your Mom isn't doing well. Sophie is a handful, I'm sure, but God knew you could handle it. She is so sweet! We both know the love and fun she brings you makes up for a lot. You don't sound "crabby" to me, but if you need to get the crabbiness out by venting here....we are all here to listen. Good to "read" you. :)
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Hi, I'm Flora, and I tell a white lie -- to save long complicated explanations. My 'husband' and I got divorced about 10 years ago but are now living in the same loving relationship we had before. So 'husband' tells the relationship truth.

Also sometimes I explain that the doctors say his memory loss etc comes from diabetes and heart failure and PTSD etc instead of from dementia, so sometimes all his conditions get better at the same time and he's like normal for a month or so (except for arthritis etc). Sometimes I explain all that and sometimes not.
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Thanks guys!
Sophie is so sweet and I just hate having to take away her treats for behavior at school but she is spitting, hitting and ,new one - licking the school walls!!! Ugh! Something is going on at school and I just do not know what. I do know having my Mom here is hard on her. She loves having her here but it also stresses her out. They are very close. And I have to talk to her about my Mom dying, in small bites. It is going to be very hard for her when my Mom passes and it may not be too long ( gulp). I am trying to get her ready in small calm conversations where we talk about how we will miss her but she will be in Heaven. Sheesh - it is no wonder she started licking walls last week. Tough talk for a young lady with her needs and communication disability and MR.

It just seems like I am trying and trying to make everyone....better...happier. Trying to help out my weary Dad, trying to calm down my girl, trying to meets all my Mom's needs and bring her some sort of peace with her situation( she asks why , why did this happen to her and says she no longer believes in God--that is hard on me). Sometimes I just want someone to try and make me happy. Not my husband -- he does that ( he is great ) but he is in the same situation as me. He needs the same thing. I don't know. I think I am most frustrated that I cannot change things. I am rambling. Sorry.
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Oh FloraSteele, you sound sweet. You are not a catfish!- in case you were worried. I think we all make decisions on how best to explain our complicated lives. For so long I thought my Mom had Alzheimer's but the diagnosis changed. It is hard to explain such situations. I do not think anyone expects us to be 100 % perfect on our recall and descriptions. Life is complicated. As long as your heart is pure :0)
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God give me the strength.......You know the rest. The things you can't change....give to God. You are doing your best and it's not going to be this bad forever.
You are smart preparing Sophie for the inevitable, and that could also be part of the reason for her new behavior. She might be starting to grieve. Hopefully that will make it easier down the road, for both of you. I hope so. :)
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im not sure if anyone explained the origin of the ' catfish' term. if not, cod fishermen keep live codfish in barrels and they will die from shock and inactivity unless a catfish is thrown in the mix to keep the cod stirred up.
the original question was are there any liars on here. i lie like a rug on valium when i have to, oo,oo... when i have to !!
ive been listening to the female metal rocker ' doro' again. what an entertainer. check out her tune entitled ' breaking the law' . hellish good music im sayin..
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Doesn't bother me at all.
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Mish,

My father used to say "When you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." As a young boy, I believed people would always do the right thing; and that the truth would set you free. Translation: I was a blind, idealistic idiot. When I moved to the US, I got "catfished" many times. Most of the time by my birth mother; a cokehead half-sister; an aunt on dope since the age of 13; a gay half-brother who "didn't have any place to go" and ran out with all the Xmas presents while I slept; an uncle who took me on a tour of Times Square, got some $ from some fat guy at a porn bookstore, and told me to get on his van for some kitchen repairs at the man's apartment. I ended up on an abandoned building in the South Bronx, he ripped my clothes off and beat me for not putting out. One punch after another, he kept screaming "I pay, you owe."

A little too gritty for your taste? Well, another thing that I learned here in hypocritical, puritanical America is that people demand honesty from you but when you give it to them they don't know what to do with it. ... This forum's moderators might not be comfortable with this post and sanitize it a little bit. Some members might say "It's not what you say Eddie, it's how you say it;" or "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." ... Freedom of speech -- even when you're not crude, crass, and obscene, can be very expensive. Because truth is so strange, some people sugarcoat things, adopt a teflon-like political language & attitude to camouflage their real selves, lie & fabricate to color their drab lives or to signal they actually exist. Many times, in my experience, self-serving predators make up some kind of front to use me, abuse me, or hurt me in some way. To "catfish" me like the 38-27-42 bombshell from a website who 4 months ago turned out to be a 350+ lb., boozing, Bohemian woman on the 6th floor of a dumpy, Lower East Side tenement. ... In retrospect, she didn't play me. I played myself.

What I'm trying to say Mish is that EVERYONE has a hustle. Call it "catfish," attention-seeking boohoohoo stories, legends-in-their-own-minds playing the victim, condescending know-it-alls, and Ernest Hemingways of BS who've never "caregived" the scrawny chickens in their own backyards.

So keep your eyes and ears open; and find your niche between predators and prey so you don't get "catfished." ... Also, remember that the more you talk about others the more you say about yourself.
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im sorry you got catfished. its hard to find decent people since most hide. i have no hustle. i moved back here because dad was scared. this is a job that is very stressfull, i dont see how people are confusing this site with a catfish one. you didnt meet anybody on this site to date did you?
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