I'm a 68 YO widow in Oregon, having lived with stage 4 ovarian cancer for almost 2 years. Did all treatment and about to start chemo again, but my body said nope. No energy, not hungry, just want to sleep.
Have 2 daughters in town by and a son in Chicago. All 3 are helping arrange hospice care and personal care 20 hrs a week. Have all my affairs in order, with legal heath POA and financial POA once I'm no longer able to make decisions. Will's all set too.
Just retired at end of July from full-time career as financial analyst. Very proud that I have everything lined up to help my kids through this journey.I've been reading this forum for months to help make my decisions- you all have great advice!
So sorry you are facing this journey now. You have every right to be so proud of all the decisions you have made for yourself, and your kids will be and this will ease things enormously for you. Reassure them that once gone they should celebrate the beauty of your life, and take comfort and relief that they no longer have to be afraid of what other things you have to face down.
Hope you will keep us updated how things are for you.
Am thinking of you. You're very brave, smart and the absolute best kind of mom, the kind that tries always to protect her kids.
I wish you peace on this part of your journey, and I hope you will continue to post so we can let you know we care. Hugs and best wishes to you.
I am doing the same for my husband and children, with stage 4 melanoma myself. Although there's no evidence of disease in my body right now, who knows what tomorrow brings. My body said nope to immunotherapy too, so my options are few when the cancer does return.
Wishing you the ability to live in the Now, and free from pain and suffering, dear friend. Each day here is a gift, I've learned, so I hope you have enjoyable days ahead.
I think you can be proud to have settled your affairs--I'm sure your children are grateful for your organizational skills.
I'm so sorry for your dreadful diagnosis and wish you peace and resolve for the New Year. ((((Hugs))))
I wish you peace during this difficult journey.
Sending hugs to you,
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