LO can be siblings, adult children, relatives. Later in life is fast approaching, and I want to be the sweet little old lady any caregiver would love to fix hair, wheel around, give good care to, be proud to take out in public, and most of all love. A recent fall in my yard made me realize that may never happen, and I could end up an awful person.
Make this post about you, what are your hopes and dreams as you age, how will you fulfill that? What is your caregiver going to post about you.? Yes, it is fully understood we don't care what "they" say, but what would YOU want them to say?
Go ahead, exaggerate!
My aunt who is 84 years old does aqua aerobics exercise 3 x a week, goes to lunches with friends at least 2 x a week, cooks for herself, knits caps and shawls to donate, knits socks and sweaters for her great grand kids, drives herself around town to visits relatives, travels to different states to visit great/grand kids.
One of my best friends, 80 years old, does aqua aerobics exercise 3 x a week, lives independently in her home, drives herself around, bakes, cooks, cleans, shops, has lunches with the women club in her mobile home park once a week, plays bingo/bunko games once a week, feeds a bunch of feral cats that come to her porch everyday, has a great sense of humor, makes me laugh all the time. When her dog died of old age, she had him cremated. It cost $70. I told her it cost 100 times more to cremate a human. She said: 'When I'm gone, I want to be cremated, too. Take me to the pet cemetery and pass me off as a large St. Bernard." Hahaha.
That is what they would say. Nothing.
I know you to be competent! It is your body that is giving you a hard time, but keep up the good fight.
What would my kids say. I don't know, but they still think I am competent but luckily they are not on A/C
She swears her friends on AC know what she was talking about, and knew how to support her just by showing up and offering simple advice.
We, her family, are very busy and would like to send her away, but where?
Then she said something about a film she wants see. Avatar or something or other. Said she needs to have parrots and falcons. Clearly in LAL LA land again.
She has left the barn door open so many times, but we love her and that is such a minor irritation. She actually seems to enjoy chasing down the boarders horses, rounding them up, and putting them back in their stalls.
She does bath and change her clothes but is very picky about her food. She has to fancy it or she won't eat. I could write a lot more but don't have all day like Mum.
Don't get me started about all her dolls and robots-- Why is she always wanting to "Go Home" ???
Angel
She is so negative, Grandma never complained about her health.
She wants someone to do almost everything for her when she could do what needs to be done. She's just lazy.
I caught her pulling a few weeds one day and had to tell her that's not good for her.
I told her that her girlfriend's mother is still getting around and doing all kinds of things and she's 95! She has to be making all this stuff up. She makes excuses to never go anywhere. We have asked her to go to craft shows but says she can't walk far.
She used to go places & did a lot of photography but now sits at the computer, does genealogy research or plays a couple of games on facebook.
She wants me to give up work and sit with her all day because she did for her Mum - did she hell as like - she moaned all the bloody time and has now turned into her Mum with the added bonus of knowing every minute thing I do wrong and of course she doesn't just tell me once she tells me over and over again. Well we have now bought an automatic mother sitter that will sit and listen all day long, never break down and only needs charging up overnight. I have programmed it to agree with everything she says. It has over a thousand books programmed in and can read to her. it can even undo knitting errors and repair them. We are off to Mars at the weekend so we are dropping her off on the moon to stay with my brother for a day or two. I need the rest!!!!!!!!
She went to a care home to have a look round but was so rude to the staff they won't take her
Angel
If I can't garden directly in the ground, I already have plans roughed out for elevated assistive gardening.
Her parrots and dogs are still living with her. She couldn't live without them.
Angel
Good God! What do I do with this crazy old woman! She has a dirty potty mouth and absolutely no filters. She seems to think that telling it like it is, is appropriate! She is willing to take her medications (thank goodness) but completely refuses to give up her gaming habit. She has accounts in every single MMORPG that is available and is always insisting we upgrade her computer so she can play faster (even though she has zero reflexes and spends her time yelling at the "noobs" in the game). I'm surprised she can easily work the newest of computer devices to play her games, but can't figure out the microwave or the remote control for the TV. She loves to eat a varied and large diet...so we must restrict her food but she swears that if we take away her Kraft macaroni and cheese she will stage a sit in. What's a sit in? She has an endless supply of cross stitch stash which she swears she needs every bit of, even though she has enough for many lifetimes. Finally, now that the right to die is in effect at the federal level, she constantly checks to make sure that her end of life (life stopping) medication is within her reach. With her genetic Parkinson's disease she swears she will off herself before she is unable to enjoy life any more. I worry I will find her dead in bed some morning with no warning...but she will have a smile on her face.
Angel