My 95-year-old mother had her antidepressant changed three weeks ago from Zoloft to Mirtazapine because she complained of weakness, and one of the reasons for that was reduced appetite. Up to last year her dementia was very mild, more like senior moments, but she has had very bad depression since my father died 20 years ago. In fact, I would say she was a depressed person all of her life but because of her generational view points towards psychology refused to go to one.
About a year ago she started finding clothes in her closet that she couldn't remember, and either she bought them in the past few years or my sisters bought them for her as gifts. She said that one of my sisters was using her closet as storage and she wanted it stopped, or someone was getting into the house somehow and we needed new and extra locks on the doors. It was ok, as it didn't come up every day and the conversation didn't stay focused on it all day.
In March and April I had a caregiver come a few days a week for a few hours to give her a shower and so I could go run errands. She and I both liked the woman very much. One of the things the woman helped her with was going through all of her closets and organizing things which my mom had wanted to do (I'm not a neatnik or clean freak like the rest of my family.) Cut forward five weeks later, my mom says her favorite black pants are missing. I mention the closet organizing which she didn't remember, next day says she did and that the girl stole her pants, that the girl wore black pants every day. I ask how did she get them out of the house, she said she put her regular pants over them and walked out the door. So that's a regular conversation now every day and it's now most of her pants and jewelry and anything else she can't find.
Took her to the doctor because of the weakness and she mentions the pants to her doctor. Doctor says to her call the agency and report her. Thanks doctor. I had tried to tell the doctor a few weeks earlier that the dementia (which her doctor never seemed to acknowledged) had worsened but the doctor said she didn't notice it.
So in the following days she wanted to not only call the agency, but the police and the condo association. On two days she went outside with her walker with me following her as she tried to find the condo president (she thinks the woman who writes the condo letter is the president, she's not.) At one point she screamed that she had been robbed and needed the police. I told the only person around that she had dementia and she heard me, mad her mad.
Brought her back to her doctor. Doctor said to take her off the new medicine and put her back on Zoloft (she's been complaining about how her brain hurts her.) She already disliked her doctor, now hates her and it's been difficult to get her to take the Zoloft but finally managed. The agitation is greatly reduced with the Zoloft, but the talking about the stealing remains. Plus now she thinks my dad just died in the last year.
Today trying a new doctor who has a specialty in geriatrics, her old doctor saw mostly elderly patients but now see that she didn't specialize in it.
My mom can still go to the bathroom on her own, dress herself, sitz bathe herself, knows all of her medicines and what they are for. Reads the newspaper daily, can talk about the George Zimmerman case (two years ago she knew almost every politician, now she sees them, knows their face and whether she likes them or not but can't name them.) Last year she read three books a week, but now says she can't read because of her dry eyes (takes Restasis and erythomiacin ointment four times a day) but I also think it's because of her comprehension.
Her doctor said her mood change may be because of the antidepressant change, but since the stealing comments were made before the change, I think her dementia has worsened. Hopeful that at least the new doctor can answer some of our questions. Thanks for listening.
He said he doesn't think she has dementia, but says she does have paranoia and hallucinations. Says to stay on the Zoloft and start taking something like Haldol, something newer and safer, at night. Right now she's mad at us for taking her to the new doctor and says he took our side about her mind. She says she just wants to die, no more doctors or medications, just let her die. I just have to hope she'll take the new medication (went to pharmacy and doc was to call it in, not there, doc's office now closed, so will have to get it tomorrow.)
Anyone know about mental illness and the elderly?
The only thing I know about mental illness is that there are lots of meds and you can't tell in advance which one will help you. But so many people on this site report that the right medication REALLY HELPED A LOT so keep trying.
Last week she was up two night straight without sleep. First night just in her bed, but second night pacing with her walker going through every drawer in the house. I finally got her to sit down in her chair but she just yelled at me. Took her to ER with my sister. Got no help there. Doctor did absolutely nothing for her. Didn't even check for a UTI or dehydration (it had been hot.) She didn't like him either, although he also said it wasn't dementia. He wouldn't give anything for the agitation, someone who knows him said it was too bad we got him because he won't even give a child with a fever an aspirin, he doesn't believe in medication. All he did was say to get her back on the Zoloft and see a geriatrics doctor which we did today.
I'd like to go to the pharmacy to get the new medication but can't take her with me in this condition. My siblings are talking about putting her in a home and already have appointments today.
She does have problems with narcotic medications. When she has been hospitalized for various breaks (hips, pelvic bone) and they gave her morphine, she went psychotic each time. She broke her pelvis last year and we warned them about giving her any narcotics. They said it was a low dosage but she was hallucinating and had the paranoia. She was throwing things. In order to transfer her over to the convalescent home for rehab, her doctor had to give her a shot of Haldol. After that, she was much better. Of course she didn't like her roommate, but that's the way it's been every time she's been at a convalescent home.
I just don't think it's just the change from Zoloft to the other pill, because she started talking about this stealing a week or two before this change occurred. Zoloft does help with the agitation, but it doesn't seem to stop her from talking about the stealing.
Next day took in urine sample to lab at her doctor's office. Saw the two doctors talking, could overhear they were talking about my mother so I joined them. Told her doctor about the leg weakness. Regular doctor said to give her 5 mg of Haldol at nighttime, no Tylenol PM. Said the benedryl in the Tylenol may be causing the psychosis. And 5 mg if she's agitated. Friday she was fine and only needed to gave her 5 mg at bedtime.
Saturday she woke up and was fine. Then she talked about the clothes but wasn't agitated. One sibling came over to give me time to go grocery shopping and some time to myself. Just before I walked out the door, sudden change in her temperament and she was psychotic again. Clothes stealing, favorite dress missing, ugly one left in it's place. Police need to be called. Detective needs to be hired. Needs to get a lawyer because children don't believe her. All of this is being screamed. Wanted to talk to my cousin about having her take care of her. Telephone her, cousin says to her she couldn't because she had husband, no room at her house and couldn't move from her city. My mom told me later cousin no longer welcome because she said cruel things to her. This cousin is only cousin in regular contact with family, now she wants to talk to nieces and nephews she hasn't talked to in five years since her birthday about being her guardian.
While I was gone sibling got her to take 5 mg of Haldol. She was asleep within 30 minutes. Woke up two hours later and is much better. Is watching Jerry Lewis movie on Comcast ondemand, laughing, says she likes it because it's funny. Never goes to church but wants to go tomorrow. Would not take another 5 mg when four hours passed because she said it makes her tired, took 2.5 mg.
Seems like if the Haldol isn't in her system, we are back at square one with her refusing to do anything in the agitated state. I don't know if the 2.5 mg will hold her over til bedtime.
12.5 didn't work, she woke up after 4 hours, agitated but not as bad as before. Not going through drawers or trying to go outside. I sat with her for 2-3 hours as she ranted what horrible children she has telling doctors and neighbors she's crazy. Says the caretaker did steal her clothes and no one will listen. She did tell the doctor about the clothes. He didn't respond one way or the other.
At this point I don't know what to say. Siblings say next step is looking at homes. One question there, when she was at nursing homes in the past for rehab, they said she had a balance problem so they would not ok her to use walker unless doing physical therapy. I noticed most of the residents were in wheel chairs. Will they take away her walker? She absolutely hates it, but will hate a wheelchair even more.