I am finding myself feeling resentment towards my father. He is 91 on dialysis three times per week and totally wheelchair bound. He and my mother still live in their own home, she has dementia. The situation is terrible. He had a chance to go to a VA nursing home in August and absolutely refused and caused a terrible scene and so did my mother. They both said some terrible things. Now things have progressed and my sister and I are picking up the slack. I am 61 she is 66, I work fulltime. My parents did not plan for their future and there is very little money to pay for caregivers. He does get the VA pension if it wasn't for that we could do nothing. He didn't even know he could get it, I filled out the papers and my sister took everything down and submitted it and thank goodness he got it a year ago. Yes, I resent him terribly for being so very selfish.
They think that since they were driving me around as a child, I should do the same for them. But they fail to understand that they weren't in their late 60's when I was a child.... big difference when you are in your 20's and 30's.
I am just thinking that if he was not taken, they could call a taxi, in an emergency would he just end up at the va anyway?
my mom fell, ended up at the hospital, and they did send her to a nursing home for rehabilitation...
if it would be possible to maneuver it so he would end up at the va.. that is all.