I have not been on in a while. Its had its ups and downs. My grandmother finally got used to the nursing home. She has been diagnosed with vascular dementia by one doctor he may think she had a stroke and another diagnosed with dementia. My visits to the nursing home has its good and bad days some days she snaps at the nurses for just trying to give her an insulin shot after her meal. On my end I'm still awaiting to get the guardianship I signed the papers to be presented to the judge back in September. As of now I didn't have to go to court two weeks ago for the judge to sign the papers, but I still have to wait to see the judge to be granted guardian. Oh boy do I got a lot to pay the nursing home already has a debt of 35K plus all the other bills I need to pay. It's draining my own money even paying some to the nursing home. To start it off, to everyone make sure your elder relatives have a POA. Don't go thru what I'm going thru. Some days I want to scream. I just hope I get everything resolved before the year is over, I don't know how much more I can take.
The NH has to be paid, the taxes have to be paid, etc etc etc - yes, they do. But they are no more *your* liability than they are mine (and I sure as heck ain't paying 'em!).
Be a wall. The guardianship application is pending. Once it is settled, you will be able to act on your grandmother's behalf but until that time comes her creditors will have to like it or lump it and wait. With the taxes, did you try speaking to the payees and explaining the situation?
The individuals you speak to work to Key Performance Indicators. Payments, or commitments to pay, towards a given account are one of their KPIs. From your point of view, the essential thing is to remember that this is their problem and not yours.
You could have fun standing outside their office window and making rude gestures.
Hope you're on the last lap and it goes smoothly from here.