I think my mother just looks for something to complain about. Yesterday I started getting her up about 10am. She complained because she didn't feel good and I should have just let her sleep. This morning when I went to get her up she was snoring. Twice I decided just to let her sleep because she was "probaly" up most of the night since she slept all day yesterday. About 20 minutes after my last trip to look in on her she came dragging into the kitchen louldly complaining that "I was supposed to get her up".
What am I supposed to do?
You mentioned on your 'last trip to check in on her', PLEASE don't tell me that at 98 she is living on her own??? Maybe I misread that.. but if she is living on her own, I would seriously think about doing something about that. If she is getting her days and nights mixed up, there is no telling what else she is 'mixing up'.
OK.. I know it is difficult to hear her complain, but at least she is talking to you. Hand her a 'complaint form' so you can let 'management know of her wishes!
Put her in control of her day. Just have her request a 'wakeup call' or something FUN like that! Have some fun with this.
My mother would complain too, and I know that her 'days and nights were all mixed up, but I just told her that she had the 'day off' so time didn't matter. We can just have fun today!
God Bless
2) What is so important that you missed? Next time I will make sure I wake you up, so don't get mad.
But the one and only example that you give is actually - given her apparent limitations in understanding - a somewhat legitimate complaint. Since getting her up in the morning is a problem that's not going away soon, I would ask her clearly what she would like, and then write it down as well. Maybe make a little book of her chosen guidelines for her to read occasionally.
Of course, that might not work either. But at least you would both have a reference point for her recurrent complaints.