she has dementia at 97 has been living with my husband and I for two years I have been her caregiver she getting worse she went to the hospital then to a NH for theraphy she was very upset says she has two homes and money well its been two years the money she had 56 thousand has gone on caregivers hospital bills remodling the bathroom for her ect. she owns two homes and tells me to hire a lady to take care of her which means selling a house and getting a lady to come live with us problem now we have to convert another room for the lady and have another person in our home husband has severe back problems and I have park/insons is it wrong to want to have some kind of life with peace she will hate me if I the sold a home and put her in assisted living the dementia is also getting really bad she ends up in the hospital every couple of months am i being selfish to want a life again maybe go some where this is wreaking my relationship I feel angry and sad all the time am I just to selfish to/ want my life back before its gone?
Another option is to have your mother discharged to a SNF when she goes to the hospital. That will get your foot in the door without major strife if her doctor will agree to it.