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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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I was told that my dad had dementia, but he was still handling his affairs (keeping track of appointments, and managing the house) and finances (paid his own bills, and wrote all of his checks). Can the doctor be wrong about dementia? When I explained everything my father did, he said that he found it hard to believe.
My mom takes medicines for high blood pressure, sugar diabetes, she has a half paralysed bladder and she is taking meds for the dementia to hopefully slow it down. She does talk but not much.
my aunt and i just sit and play with her small purse full of junk change now . theres nothing profound or meaningful about it ,its just tenderness and togetherness . i found a beautiful pic of a field of flowers online , had a 5x7 made at walgreens and put it in a goodwill pic frame for her . its a nasty disease but in ways the patient lives in an uncomplicated world . keep it simple with them if you want to be welcomed in their world .
It's difficult to say what is going on in the mind of someone with dementia. Even if they do know, do they remember it? From my experience with my loved one, I try not to focus on what they may understand or remember. I just try to give a general attitude of kindness and compassion. It can't hurt and it makes me feel better.
Sometimes my loved one, (my cousin) and I have conversations that sound pretty normal, but they aren't. My cousin will forget what was said 5 minutes later. She tells me many times that she knows how much I do for her and that she is very appreciative, but I'm not sure she really understands or recalls what she says.
I have noticed a couple of residents at the assisted living facility where my cousin lives who never say one word. I wonder how they are doing. I think there are certain types of dementia that fit that description. What if you do something with her that does not require words? Such as rubbing lotion on her hands, combing her hair, painting her nails? Do you think she would allow that?
You might also see if she would like to listen to music together. I gave my cousin a small radio and she listens to music with the earphones. (At least she used to. She's now stopped doing much at all.)
You might also check her medications and see if they could be causing her to act that way. Perhaps it could be adjusted. Does she have any medical conditions besides the dementia? It wouldn't hurt to check. I wish you both the best. Going to visit everyday can be very draining. Your mom may wish you were taking time for yourself.
Thanks for answering me. The question is is she hearing me, is she understanding me? My mom is living in an old aged home but I go and see her everyday. Does she know what's happening to her?
When your mom's eyes glaze over and she looks like she's somewhere else, that's because she is somewhere else. Somewhere you can't get to. It's very frustrating and heartbreaking.
But you're in good company here. There is so much support and experience on this site. I hope you avail yourself of everything this site has to offer. Come back often and write more, vent, ask questions, whatever you need. The more detailed your comments and questions the more detailed the responses will be.
Does your mom live with you? Are you her primary caregiver?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Sometimes my loved one, (my cousin) and I have conversations that sound pretty normal, but they aren't. My cousin will forget what was said 5 minutes later. She tells me many times that she knows how much I do for her and that she is very appreciative, but I'm not sure she really understands or recalls what she says.
I have noticed a couple of residents at the assisted living facility where my cousin lives who never say one word. I wonder how they are doing. I think there are certain types of dementia that fit that description. What if you do something with her that does not require words? Such as rubbing lotion on her hands, combing her hair, painting her nails? Do you think she would allow that?
You might also see if she would like to listen to music together. I gave my cousin a small radio and she listens to music with the earphones. (At least she used to. She's now stopped doing much at all.)
You might also check her medications and see if they could be causing her to act that way. Perhaps it could be adjusted. Does she have any medical conditions besides the dementia? It wouldn't hurt to check. I wish you both the best. Going to visit everyday can be very draining. Your mom may wish you were taking time for yourself.
When your mom's eyes glaze over and she looks like she's somewhere else, that's because she is somewhere else. Somewhere you can't get to. It's very frustrating and heartbreaking.
But you're in good company here. There is so much support and experience on this site. I hope you avail yourself of everything this site has to offer. Come back often and write more, vent, ask questions, whatever you need. The more detailed your comments and questions the more detailed the responses will be.
Does your mom live with you? Are you her primary caregiver?