She has dementia and has horrible behavior. She hits and punches the aids and throws water on them. The director of nurses explained they will have to admit her to a hospital and give her meds to her through an IV. I am in tears about this whole situation. I hate to put my mother through this, but what other options do I have?
I think would I would want to have happen if I were her daughter, is to somehow get the drugs administered that could reduce her anxiety and combativeness. If she returns to a calmer state, more able to communicate clearly, then perhaps talking to her about her options would be more productive.
My heart goes out to you all.
Lying to her to get her to take pills just has to be done. She is dangerous to herself and others if she gets away. Think of the damage she could do if she ran out into the road in front of a new driver - the teen would think she would have sense enough to stop, but would be scarred for life by hitting, or worse killing her - and that is if the teen lives.
We have mthr a subscription to a "natural living" magazine full of vitamin ads, and she marks what she wants to try. She is on a good multi vitamin from her favorite company, and we tell her the other pills she is on are the other supplements. She takes them OK unless she is highly agitated.
@sanantonian - could your mother be fed the meds in her food?
We have learned that "competent" is a legal term, not medical, and no doc wants to touch that with a ten foot pole! I wonder if this is an edict for their malpractice insurance? Our GP told us that the only doc he thought would determine competence was a psych. We had a court ordered psych evaluation, and since the results were never introduced into evidence, they probably were destroyed. Any way, no one except APS has access to the original.
As long as someone has not been ruled incompetent, they can change their will, revoke a POA, or change their directive. Of course, if they don't remember those documents, they won't!
Wow, an unaccompanied cross country flight. I let my two teenagers do that together once, but Granny would scare me even if she were living by herself and fully competent! :)
@lherzog - I am in Alberta and have not heard of anything like that but will ask around. I have a friend in Edmonton who has a lot of knowledge of/experience with seniors issues.
You may want to contact the poster, PaulaK, for more info. Here is a link to her wall. https://www.agingcare.com/Members/PaulaK
Good luck