I am at my wits end. I try to give my mom advise to make things easier, or more beneficial, but she refused to listen, and tells me she doesn't trust my advise. I feel like I'm just her gopher. All I'm good for in her eyes is to take her to the dr, and run her errands. She does ask my opinion on her hair and clothing, but anything else ends up in an argument. Seems the only way "I" have to convince her is to have my sons, put it to her. Then she is all ears... It's actually very insulting. I know she wants to feel independent, and in not trying to take anything away from her, but its unnerving. Even the simplest thing. I cringed when I think of the next few years, when she will not be even worse. Shpuld I just bite my tongue? And lets her do things that are just illigical?
Older people are afraid that the males will leave if not treated politely, but they know that the daughters won't. Don't even get me started about the time my Grandma wanted me to make a 40 minute round trip to get milk because my brother was visiting her and "might want milk on his cereal in the morning " (he gladly picked it up on the way home when I called-- not his fault).