My dad had a stroke about a year ago he also has a lot of other medical conditions including diabetes heart disease and dementia . Since the stroke i have devoted my life to either visiting him at the hospital or rehab to 24 hr care in my home . I have a family of 3 teenage boys and a husband plus a fulltime job ( when i am at work i pay a caregiver ) . My dad can never live alone again and requires assist with ADL meds apt ect. How can i convince him to move into an Assisted living ? I am his only child and he has no one but us to depend on . He has one friend who is bipolar and he thinks he can live with her but she has already said no many times plus she is unfit ...addicted to norco ect . My dad does have some lucid moments but has impulsive child like behavior and is mostly confused . I am also seeking guardianship , my visiting nurse practitioner has written a short letter for me on his mental and physical status but I need 2 letters . Need advice on how to handle an outside Dr who does not see my dad in the home environment especially at night.
However, that doesn't mean anyone has a better idea, necessarily, and you have to deal with reality. So the thing to do is to dig a little deeper, going gently, into what his fears are, more specifically, and see if they can be addressed. With luck, patience and a good, happy, well-run facility on your side you still have a fair chance of seeing him settled safe and content - even thriving - near you and your family and all will be well. Nil desperandum!