I spent time with my FIL at his 62nd high school class reunion today. There were about 35 elders here. What amazed me so is their state of mind! They were visiting, traveling, conversing, checking their smart phones etc!! They were making plans! FIL is incredibly codependent. He also will only do just enough to get by. My husband tells me FIL had always been this way. I am wondering if these two character flaws have contributed to his "old man" attitude. He does have Alzheimer's but is not at any advanced stage. He has acted old since I met him 16 years ago. He does not want to walk by himself although he's perfectly capable. He won't get himself anything to eat although he can get snacks, drinks, etc by himself. Frankly, if I would, he'd have me wipe his arse for him so he would not have to. I cannot imagine acting this feeble. He's really is not as "old" as he acts. I know I have to accept him exactly as he is yet I will admit there are days that I am extremely frustrated by his lack of effort.