She will not even go grocery shopping with us, she will not let us take her anywhere, not even to the doctor. We are the only ones that live with her in her house. we have been living away for 17 years and just moved back a year and half ago. She despises me her step daughter, when she used to love me, I do not understand this change in behavior. I do so much for like cleaning, and making sure her pill box is full, she eats meals on wheels, but she will not let me pick up her meds when the pharmacy calls, she always says, "I don't need that"! I take out the trash, vacuum and pick up around the house keeping it neat as she likes and I get no credit for any thing I do!!! I'm not looking for a medal of honor just some appreciation and not the mean words and actions from her, she always makes faces at me behind my back in front of whom ever is in the room. She makes me feel like she hates me! This makes it very difficult to take care of her when she will not let me buy her meds from the pharmacy and her groceries or even just get her out of the house for lunch. All she does is just lay around and watch tv and nap.
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It sounds as though she may be developing dementia. If when left to her own devices, she practices unsafe behavior (such as not taking her meds) you need to speak to her doctor and possibly social services.
Did she request the elder care? If it's economics, are you holding
up your part of the rent deal? I'll assume that you were invited, and you are paying rent. If that's the case, and you are well situated with $, ask her if she'd feel better if you moved out, and be ready to do so. Get poa & mpoa if possible, of course. I'm in a similar situation with my Mom, and after we left, she seems to be bumbling through, and she isn't all hateful. It's only been 2 months, but the sky hasn't fallen. This may be somewhat irresponsible, but she refuses to give POA, and she doesn't always treat us civilly, so we're trying to let go and let God take care of her (with the provision that we will jump in and help, IF ASKED).
Please don’t try and make me Remember…
Don’t try and make me Understand…
Just let me Rest and know you’re with Me…
Kiss my Cheek and Hold my Hand
I’m Confused beyond your concept…
I am Sad and Sick and Lost…
All I know is that I need You…
To be with me at all cost.
Don’t lose your patience with Me…
Please don’t Scold me, Curse, or Cry….
I can’t help the way I am Acting…
Although I will try.
Just Remember that I need You…
And the Best of me is Gone…
Please just stay beside me…
Until my Life is Done.
...IF one of her friends or someone would take her shopping and she could spend her own money that way.