Today I fired an aid who allowed my mother to go to bed without dinner.
She "went to bed" at 4pm- but I know it was to avoid the girl.
After I heard her fighting over the door and saying harshly 'NO!" I tried calling the place to no avail.
Now, she is combative for the first time with a woman who she got along with SO well, wants her out of the apt. and just now kicked her! She thinks she is the other girl!! One aid can ruin it for everyone. I called the Dr. just incase it is a UTI.. waiting for call-back.
I can figure out how an Aide ruined everything? As you know with someone with such memory issues, it is very hard to anyone to make a Dementia patient do something they don't want to do. Why was it the Aide's fault?
Honestly, from your past postings I think it is time for another layer of care for your Mom, like in a memory care unit. If you feel your Mom cannot afford to do that, then check with Medicaid as they can help her out with the cost.
in the meantime I had to
hire two aids who have been wonderful. She needs 24hr care, and two people doing that was too much, so they put on a younger girl.
Mother was afraid of her immediately, wanted her out, but I couldnt contact company and as the weekend went on it became worse. The girl was combative and yelled at her NO! mother is a mess today thinking this nice regular aid is that other girl. omg, she even kicked her=totally out of character.
Dr doesnt think it is UTI
omg yes, I said she was my friend, and whispered to mom that I got rid of the mean one... She didnt believe me :O
I am TRULY hoping this is over, I think she has calmed down now.
Just felt SO bad for the regular aid, and for mom to go through this.
( the aid is going to wear her blond wig tomorrow, we think her black one makes her look too much like the other one. ) Yep, you never know.
I told her we have to start from scratch.