notrydoyoda Posted January 2012
The Caregiver & Dysfunctional Families: How are you doing?
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and they look like people...
Anything that costs you your peace
is too expensive.
I suspect so also. I will tell them.
I have shared two of your jokes on a childhood trauma page because they can appreciate them as well.
I shared,
"I saw a store that has a sign that reads
"We treat you like family!"
Yup,
NOT going in there."
and
"Monsters are real
and they look like people...
“Fine, we’ll compromise.
I’ll get my way & you’ll find a way to be OK with that.”
On Netflix.
It is very disturbing to watch, definitely not for everyone. I've never heard sexual abuse, explained in such detail and what it does to a childs brain.
I won't say I like the show but it is educational, I guess.
I couldn't press click due to the subject. I am very sorry that you are having to learn about that subject. If you talk with those who work in that area, they will tell you that the statistics are way off. A good book on this subject without having to go into as much detail as it sounds you have heard is The Body Keeps Score.
To keep from getting on a roll with this subject, I'll close with this. Such is worse in a single-parent situation, particularly with an only child of the opposite sex. If I say anymore, it will become mount everast.
Goodbye, I have to call a guardianship lawyer concerning my wife who has suddenly gotten into what I think is manic spending beyond reason which her sister saw evidence of last week and I've shared with her therapist who she sees tomorrow. I've tried talking with her about this as has her sister, but no luck. It is a very sad day, but why people set up medical and durable POAs. Sufficient to say, but the credit card debt is about to exceed $9,000 which it will take her inheritance money to pay for which means less money for staying in a continuing care place which her sister and us will soon be looking over. This is a sad day.
I wear my smartwatch almost every night. I added up the nights on
which I slept for 6 hours or more from Jan 1 until yesterday. The
results were that I only slept an average of 6.85 hours on 29 of
those days which I slept for at least 6 hours over the past almost 9 months.
I'm sending this to my neurologist, my PC who I see tomorrow and maybe my
endocrinologist.
(i gotta apply that to myself, too)
🥰 “If you want to fly, give up everything that weighs you down.”
🙂 🙂 "I envy all the people who have never met you."
"Just let her do it, let her be happy shopping and pay the credit bill, live in a hoarding house. You only live once."
I actually read this one today.
Mom wanted me to write down some info big enough for her to read on a piece of notebook paper when she calls one agency regarding instructions for lining up a RMD. I do so and I hand it to her. She's looking at it and, her being the creative one, expressed some criticism over me not staying in-between lines and the info taking up more than half of the page. Chances are, she would've been critical had I written everything on individual lines. It was either write big, covering two lines, or only cover half the page. She wasn't getting both. I mean, she wanted the info for her cheat sheet big enough for her to read and I did what she asked of me.
A little later, she tended to a form she got in the mail from our congressman asking for a political donation. She wrote on the form and told him to ask a politician that shall not be named for money instead of her. She said she did it over disagreement over a piece of legislation. I thought it was a classless move and like with a couple of other forms asking for donations she wrote snarky remarks on of late, I did what should've been done the moment we got done looking through the mail the other day and threw it in the trash. I mean, they were gonna get thrown away once they arrived at their campaign locations anyway. And I'm not telling her I threw those things away. She told me she was expressing her opinion and I almost wanted to openly tell her to do it in a way that wasn't classless. There are far, far worser cases of classlessness out there, but still.
She got semi-emotional and told me "I don't get in your business." And I thought to myself "yeah, and you like to drag me into YOUR business and turn YOUR problems into MY problems. Plus, she was talking about some political posts I liked and commented on on FB from long-time friends of hers while we were talking not too long ago, disagreeing with the posts.
Can you say hypocrite?
They don't stop. I block them, I ignore them, I say please stop, and then resorted to saying not nice things. 😆, but nothing stops them, from texting me .
It's almost over! Elections are coming quick. And hopefully tensions will relax.
I told him bottom line, YB has no respect for me and I have no interest in having a relationship with someone that has no respect for me and wants to be glorified.
OB and me are so different in many ways, but we always respect each other.
He understood it, and said yeah he he acts, looks, stands, just like are father. I felt validated and understood. Which is nice!
“You can’t build with someone who isn’t trying to help you carry the bricks.”
Anyways I told her if I do or don't get it, it won't matter, she is still going to need more help, with or without me.
🥰 “I’m a very nice person, but for you I’ll make an exception.”
“Beware of people who are in your circle but not in your corner.”
“Without freedom of speech, we would not know who the idiots are.”
“Sometimes people come into your life and they need to stop doing that.”