Caregiving for my mother for that last 1.5 years is the hardest thing I have done (juggling with full-time job, husband, and my life what we have left of it).
Though this morning when I was making breakfast for my 96-yr old mom and she asked how she got to our house (for millionth time), I took a deep breath, gave the abbreviated version what transpired over the last 2 plus years and how we got her from not being able to sit up on her own or to walk to standing and being able to wash and dry her hands and using a walker to get from her wheel chair to the bathroom or to sit outside on the deck and return to her chair.)
She teared up and said, "Thank you." You were always good to me.
That's when I am happy she is here and not in a NH. I know then in the end, I will miss her like crazy and will probably remember the non-dementia mom, but will be satisfied that we helped her to the best of our ability, that she was happy and in familiar surroundings, with family and loved until God has her in his Home.
LastOne
That is so sweet. I'm so happy for you that your mother and you are so happy. That is so cool and just warms my heart.
I wish my relationship was that way, but it has badly eroded. And soon I won't be able to tuck her in anymore. Though I will think of her each night and tuck her in and tell her I love her virtually. LO
This is probably why I find it so heartwarming to read about a parent who appreciates the caregiving child. I know that those good times give you a boost in your spirits. I hope her tears are replaced by a smile today.
LastOne with another thought for you. I'm sure in your mom's heart and soul she knew the sacrifices you gave up for her. Are you still caring for you mom?
The ravages of the the disease upon their brain is brutal to not only those who have the disease, but the loved ones caring for them - especially when one is a direct relative (son/daughter). You are kind to your mother by caring for her and I hope you have family who assist you. Best regards--
Last one here. Thank you for your thoughts also. Your mom and her husband sounded very appreciative of your time and care you gave to them. That is a gift.
LastOne here. Your words and thoughts are very kind. Thank you. Most days my mom can say thank you for things, but there are others not so good. Her good moments are about 10-20% of the time, so when a good moment comes around it is very welcome.
On the morning of the 4th, right now, she is crying in bed and feeling bad again. Maybe a non-relative caregiver can handle that emotionally, but I don't do very well with that. My mom is living at our house and we are basically stuck here 96 to 98% of the time. That is 4 to 6 hours a week.
I don't want to get off-topic, so just again will say, thank you for your very kind response, your thoughts are uplifting to me.