I am trying to organise for Mum to go into respite when we move because I cant manage everything...I just can't. Mum is determined she is not going to go and currently they are listening to her not me. Advice?
Right now I feel like taking her on the day to the respite home for a day visit and not going back to pick her up, but that would end me in deep poo so don't even suggest that route!
My only other suggestion, which i think was already put out, is to have someone sit with her in the old place until the movers are done. If she won't go to respite happily, then she'll just have to put up with the flurry of moving and you ignoring her. She'll have someone else with her. If she has hystetics, you call an ambulance.
I'm sorry if I sound cold hearted. But i have a very low tolerance for crap from my mother.With or without dementia, If she wants my help, it's on my terms, or she can find someone else.
Seriously though, could you at least hire someone to keep her occupied for the day?
So if I want to go away for a weeks respite the ONLY care option I am being offered (which Mum will have to pay for is 168 hours home care using 4 carers to cover the round the clock care and it will cost Mum £18.50 an hour so thats £3108 (4514.99 $) plus they don't shop, clean, do laundry. They will cook (oh thats good of them)
On the face of it I can see why they charge that much but is does strike a chord when that is almost exactly the same kind of money that the govt consider I am worth for caring for Mum for the entire year
OTOH, I really think you and CountryMouse should get together and start a UK carer's respite house.
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