Mom has cancer that has gone to her brain. They gave her 6 months and only managed to do radiation. She can't live on her own because she can't walk and home care is not enough. Since Nov she has been in hospital then in hospice then back home with me caring for her and now she is in long term care. She hates it so much. I can't take care of her at her house because I have a 4 year old and I live in the next town over. Now she is wanting to go to my house for me to have her there with homecare and one hired help. It's hard to watch her so thin and in pain and she has not accepted that she doesn't have much time left. The tumor is in the frontal lobe and so her personality has changed so much. She has so much anger and sometimes she can't even remember things. She thinks we have all abandoned her even tho I go there every day and even when she was in hospital. Would it make a difference if she was home with me or will she act the same way? I feel so much guilt having her in a long term facility.
If you have a 4 year old, unless you can isolate Mom, not sure if having her in your home would be good for a 4 yr old.
You CAN’T.
Keep being her daughter. Keep up the visits, and enjoy your time together.
Let those who can share the caregiving over 2 or3 shifts in a day do their job.
I’m so sorry that your Mom and you are going through this.
Best wishes.