Hi Forum Family! While it's technically "Mother's Day", it can be a hard day (and painful, actually) for those who find it difficult to "celebrate" a mother who possesses traits that are not indicative of what a mother should be - that instead of being nurturing, kind, protective and caring, they were abusive, selfish, entitled, manipulative, etc.
So, for anyone on this forum who is having an emotionally tough or sad day, I wanted to say that I see you - I understand you - I feel for you - and I send hugs and love to you. I think an alternative for today's "Mother's Day" can also be thought of as "Survivor's Day" - for those who have not only survived, but hopefully are in the process of rising above and thriving - in spite of any past or present difficulties experienced from an unkind mother.
Wishing us all a Happy and Peaceful Day ~
But also happy to be taken out for a meal by dd and sil - his idea. Nice! And so happy to get a lovely f/b card from my oldest son, especially since he is not the romantic/touchy feely type.
The good stuff outweighs the bad stuff. Wishing everyone here a good day and time to feel special, because you are.
Sorry, I had to laugh at that. Not trying to rub it in but I had a good Mom. Her family was everything. Maybe because her Mom died when she was 9 and she was sent miles away from her siblings who were adults by then fending for themselves. This was 1938, still depression time. Mom was the "Mom" to all our friends some whose home lives were not that great. Seems us girls remembered Mother's Day but if not for the wives, my brothers may not have. She deserve much more from them. It bothered my Dad but I never heard Mom complain.
Today I have flowers from my oldest and her youngest, he picked them out. Haven't heard from youngest but pretty sure it will be flowers. My husband would buy them but I tell him I am not his Mom. For me its not Mothers Day that is so important, its what my girls do for me during the year. Cannoli my oldest picks up for me when at my favorite Italian store. That pottery bowl picked up for me when it was seen at a craft show. Just bringing me something they know I will like just because. I think the just because gifts are the best. My SIL calls them Happys.
You sound like an Amazing mom and I hope you enjoyed your day!!
I LOVE being a mom. But I had 5 kids and they were not 'easy'. They grew into amazing adults and for that, I guess I must have done something right!
Last night 3 of my daughters took me to dinner. We had a great time and then today they can spend the day with THEIR families, as it should be.
I did find that I was too 'emotional' to get my act together to go to Church this morning. I had a terrible night last night--Dh had been gone all day, fixing stuff at my daughter's and he got home really late and went right to bed. He DID, amazingly, get me some flowers and a card, which he rarely does (I'm not HIS mom, is his reasoning). He also got his mother one--and I know in the back of his mind he knows this is her last Mother's Day, and that was niggling at him.
It's also the first Mother's Day for me without my mom. Lots of mixed emotions.
I am taking flowers to the graves of my mom & grandmothers later today. Dh has to spend the day & night at his mother's.
It's a day I've NEVER liked and like it less as time goes on.
I like the idea of calling it 'Survivor's Day'.
I hope this day became lighter for you! Sending hugs!
I learned from my mom how not to be and it has served me well. And while I wasn't a "perfect" mom, I was the best mom I knew how to be and my children are thankful that I am their mom.
As a mom I can't ask for more than that!
Happy Mother's Day to you all. May God continue to do His mighty work in your lives.
I'm happy to hear that your grandson made you feel special today - that's a gift!
I think from now on, I'm going to make sure that I do something kind for myself (as we all should) on holidays so it's received as an easier and better day!
Wishing you the best days to come!
Wishing everyone a happy and peaceful day today as well.