Mom fell 5 weeks ago, Dr was not scheduled to be a facility, so off to ER we go. That next week still in pain so we call him, they’re not coming but we can bring her? Appt was a joke said they’d follow up in two weeks. Nothing. Since then she’s developed second UTI and on second round of antibiotics. Still has not been seen at the facility. We’re told by visiting nurse she can be “fired” by Dr if she continues to be a problem? I’m at a loss now, we’ve not had a full time nurse since May, but ones starting Monday. How do others work?
Assisted livings are not prisons. Your Mom is a resident. Just like paying for an apartment but with some extra help. ALs are limited in what they do. This not having a fulltime nurse at the facility is not right. Even though these places are private owned, they report to the state. My impression is that an RN has to be there 8 hrs a day and on call the rest of the time. An LPN can back up but they are usually limited in what they can do.
You may want to consider moving Mom if things don't get better.
On the other side of the coin, my Mom was living in a Nursing Home. Thus she would be seen by the facility doctor. Her primary doctor was now out of the picture. Wish my Mom's primary doctor could have been part of her care, but that isn't how it works for Nursing Homes in my area. The facility doctor was there daily to see patients.
If Mom is getting frequent UTIs please investigate D-Mannose. It works much like cranberry in that bacteria cannot adhere to the bladder wall. I swear by it. Was getting more than 4 a year, went on D-Mannose (over the counter and at health food stores or Amazon about 30.00 for 120 capsules) and have had no UTI in decades. Worked the same for two friends. As a nurse I am a western medicine gal and don't like vitamins and supplements, but I swear by this and started it when Doc threatened me with daily prophylactic antibiotics after two infections went into the kidney. It is certainly worth the try. Warning that the capsules are large, so should be given broken into glass of something or get the powder. And of course won't be given by nursing staff unless your doc orders them to be. But are otherwise otc
I'm confused by you saying your mom can be fired by the doc if she 'continues to be a problem.' What? Are elderly people in Assisted Living Facilities supposed to be healthy all the time? I don't get it. Of course they are going to continue having problems, continue declining, and continue to need medical attention until they pass away! That sounds to me like an off-the-wall comment, if I'm understanding it correctly. If the doctor considers your mother a problem because she requires medical care, then something is rotten in Denmark.
On another note, visiting nurses often shouldn’t say things like that with no explanation to whoever they are speaking with. Being a nurse myself you catch yourself before saying anything & think through your responses because anything said can be interpreted differently and/or cause unnecessary panic.
My MIL (95) is in an AL and is followed by their doctors. The only thing she goes out for are corneal injections for macular degeneration. My SIL takes her.
If it is getting too much to take her to appts she may have to reconsider. Maybe she will get too weary to commit to dressing up & going out.
Usually counties have their own senior/handicapped transportation buses that residents can apply for and use. In that case if you enroll your mother, you can request a wheelchair van and either meet her at the doctor appt or ride with her on the bus. Lifting a w/c and a senior into your vehicle can be physically difficult for us.
Wishing the best for both of you.
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