Also needs to be in SNF and won't go. This is the straw that broke the camel's back. She's been home just over a week and the home care company didn't even show up. They were supposed to come today and it's 5pm on Saturday. Still no call so I can't even turn to them. My husband sprayed her chair multiple times and it seems they are finally gone. But when I read up on others who had this problem they talk about looking in picture frames. She's is a handful already and should be in a SNF but refuses. I, her daughter am about to have one broken ankle and foot I walked on amputated and my husband broke vertebrae in his back and suffers depression since surgeries onmy other leg took 7 years and I was total care. Now I'm getting better, mother and husband getting worse, my brother won't lift a finger to help and I can't afford exterminator. What do I do about making sure bugs are gone and about getting her to realize or getting cheaper help so I stop neglecting myself and husband??? HELP!!!
Does Mom suffer from Dementia? Right there is a good reason for LTC. It no longer is her choice but what she needs. From your post, you will not be able to care for her. Who is going to care for her while you are healing? Maybe u can get her in a NH by telling her its just till u heal. Then u tell her you have found that you cannot care for her.
Who set up the homecare? If Discharge at the facility call and ask if they ever put in for it. If not Discharge, have you called the in home?
It seems as though there is a lot of chaos and that you Mother may need placement soon. Don't try to address everything on one day. First things first.