My dad was in the rehab for a long time - he has many needs and his sole desire was to go back to be with wife at their ALF. The ALF evaluated him and found that his level of care is higher than they can provide. Mom is not ill enough to go to a nursing home but has dementia so moving her to another ALF connected with a nursing home is not a good idea either. How do I break the news to dad?
Why isn't it a good idea for Mom to move to be near Dad? Changing environments will be hard, but missing your Dad must be hard, too. Or doesn't she notice?
I am sorry that your dad has so many health problems. This is a difficult situation. Let us know how it goes.
((((((((((hugs)))))) Joan
An online search (Medicare.gov, A Place for Mom, and referrals on this website) is a good way to start. Best wishes -