Mom would give this to him if she knew it. After some heated conversation while I was making arrangements to move Mom to the IL/AL place she wanted and needed to live in because it has a few low-income units, I commented that I just don't have any more to give to this process. I have no money for her. I can't coordinate long distance unless our family friend, B, helps me. Mom and sister and BIL don't want B helping.
So now BIL is asking for her bank account info so he can monitor it. Not an unreasonable request since he will be putting money into her account.
But I feel like I need to protect myself. Do I? Or am I just being reactionary to this sudden twist?
Watch your back cmcwrinkl1.....I'd be suspicious of his motives!
I care give at a distance. I find the staff of the places mother has been at are helpful.
Good luck to you -it isn't easy and relatives who want to take over make it so much harder. (((((((hugs)))))))
Trust you gut. Your head will play games with you all day long.
Best to you & you do not walk alone.
Partner with your sister and BIL, you need the help.
Best of luck.
L
I think perhaps once things settle down with Mom's recent move and once the full benefits are arriving and BIL no longer needs to give her money that I might change the password at least.
And now he wants to see how she will handle the dining set up at this new place. Especially since I complained to him about how she will go to a restaurant (or cafeteria) and order more than she can eat. Or splurge on things - a salad on the side instead of the vegetable that comes with it. Because she deserves it (in her mind). It is a major trigger for me how mom behaves with food and is the biggest possible obstacle to making this new living arrangement work.
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