The Dr. said my mom had to have 24/7 care on Mon, 8/31. Tues, 9/1 before noon I had her signed up for an adult day care right by my work so we ride together in the morning. She is staying at my house with me and I have installed an alarm on the door and contacted the local police department with a description of her and my address and phone number just in case she wanders away. When we got home last night (Thurs, 9/3) I had a business card in my door from APS. Now they have to interview both of us and come and do a home check, etc. As if I need more to do...
May I know why your brothers would report you to APS? Why? Did they tell you why? Or in past conversations showed disapproval of you/mom?
It's apparent from your post that you HAVE been leaving mom home alone. Perhaps it was the doctor who reported you. They are mandated reporters after all.
And raise the issue of your brother's non-participation and ask APS for suggestions. They probably won't have any that you haven't thought of, but it demonstrates your attempt to provide 24/7 care for your mother by bringing in the brothers.
And you definitely need to report the break-in. Were you there when they broke in? Did you call the police?
Do start keeping a diary of everything!! I have been keeping one since mid October of '14 because things were getting pretty bad and I needed more help. I gave it Mom's doctor in two portions so that I had some backup. I also got a letter from the physical therapist we had for a while - she recommended more supervision as well. Keep emails and text messages from your brothers, too. My brother has shut me out of Mom's care as of last week, and she will not see me. I am hoping that her doctor calls as well. (((HUGS))). It sounds like you have done what you can, but if she is being left alone - that is one big problem. A very dangerous problem.
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