Well, Mom cancelled another geriatric assessment appointment! That's 5! I am DONE! I called the paramedic service today and they are coming Saturday to do a MoCa. And I've comtacted a lawyer and gotten a bit of advice on the proerty, as well as being directed to contact "capacity assessors" to see if it could be done that route instead of through the Dr. The sad reality is, until she is deemed incapable of making her own decisions, she can keep making bad ones.
But I am #@$%#@! done. I told my brother it's time to place her. I don't really expect him to agree or offer assistance, but at least I've put it out there.
Does anyone have any idea how to get a LO placed, without an assessment? We are in Ontario, Canada, and I know most of you are from the US, but I'll take any help I can get right now.
If you have a Mom you took into your home, who may be impaired but is untested, I don't honestly see how you can remove her, because if she IS impaired it may be abandonment at the point and if she is not she may fight any eviction in court.
I would see an attorney. I don't see another way. And if that person has no answers, I surely don't. I sure do wish you good luck, but this entire thread is a very deep warning to others considering taking elders into their own homes.
Tell the discharge planner or a Social Worker that she can not be discharged back to your home. Tell them that you can no longer safely care for her.
And now, last night, she hearly burnt the house down. She started cooking and went to bed. The fire dept was here, the smoke alarms going off, house filled with smoke on the coldest night of the year I had to stand outside in my bathrobe. That's it. She could have killed us all. She needs to go, and now!
She is back in the hospital again, with another intestinal blockage. 4th time since November. She keeps taking loperamide and getting blocked up, and the dr keeps prescribing them. Maybe this will make someone look a little closer.
Best wishes for a happy outcome for your peace of mind.