I've been taking care of my Mother since Dec. 2017 as she had hip surgery that month and then later had carpal tunnel surgery in May 2017. I've been helping with driving her all over the place getting her to doctors appointments, grocery shopping, any other general errand type needs as well. At this point I'm concerned for my marriage as this has put a tremendous strain on it and I'm looking for a solution to the issue at hand. My Mom lives an hour away from my home up island so most of the time I'm living at her place in order to help her out. I'm thinking at this time we need to get a social worker involved because I can no longer keep this up-I'm pretty much burnt out. Money is a problem because my Mother only has SSI and has Medicare and Medicaid coverage. There's no way for my husband and I to help her financially as we've already done all that we could and now money is a concern for us as well. We are looking to get my Mother moved up island close to where we live so that if anything should come up I'll be able to run over to her relatively quickly. My husband and I have been keeping our eyes open for rentals in the general area up island but to no avail...they're all just too expensive! Anyway, I'm looking for help with how to talk to my Mother about getting a social worker involved because that is a tough topic to touch upon. I'm also looking for help with getting a social worker for Mom. If anyone is able to help out that would be great. Thanks for your time.
As for getting your mom to talk to a social worker, I suggest talking to the social worker first and seeing if s/he will contact your mother, or maybe you will need to work directly with the SW yourself, as I have done.
But ... if she is already on Medicaid, call her case worker! Usually there are two -- one financial and the other for care issues. The care case worker should be visiting at least twice a year. If you don't know who that is, see if you can find your mother's Medicaid paperwork. Or call your local Medicaid office and ask who her case worker is.