Mom is 94 yrs old and on hospice for end stage congestive heart failure. She is still in her own home and lives a few doors down from us. She is still somewhat mobile and does manage to make some meals for herself. She doesn’t cook, but merely heats things in the microwave. We supply her with dinners we make and she also gets meals on wheels (pre-made meals) delivered to her house. I help out and hospice does some things for her too. Her appetite is not that great and she has lost over 15 lbs since February of this year. But she is compulsive with food most times. It’s as if she eats, breathes and sleeps different meals she wants and she is becoming pretty demanding that I buy certain foods for her when I go shopping. For example, tonight she wanted me to get her lamb chops, mashed potatoes, and broccoli. She wants me to make it and bring it to her. Of course I will, but this is becoming a conversation almost daily. Can anyone tell me what may be going on? She has more than enough food there to last a week or more until I go shopping for her again. She has never been without food ever and I get her whatever is on her list.
At any rate, I think her choice of lamb, potatoes and broccoli reflects a good balance, and that may be part of her approach to address weight loss.
To me it shows good insight, so I would encourage it. If it helps her plan her day, and exercise thinking options, I think it's a good thing to encourage.
I also think that until we're in that situation, it's probably pretty hard for us to intuit what others are thinking. Communications aren't always capable of being that clear.
My partner and I discuss this quite a lot. I am 78 and he is 80. He has GERD so if very limited in what he can eat and what hours he can eat. I myself can eat anything. I think about food A LOT and he is kind of anti food. It has become something he cannot enjoy but must do in limited quantities and amounts and indeed food itself. Whereas I kind of obsess now on GOOD THINGS TO EAT. Not much else in covid times. I mean I love my gardening and walks and the few things I like on TV, and reading. But what I really like is Hamburger and fries. Coke here and there. White one once in a while. Ribs. Quesadillas. And I will kind of obsess on what fun food I am going to have. Could honestly eat same food over and over IF it is spaghetti and great meatballs. (You see what I mean about obsessing on good foods to eat, here?). Pizza! NOW we're talking.
So just get a giggle out of it. And if she is dealing with CHF and still can take this much joy in anything at all, I say more the power to her. She's so lucky to be close to you and have her personal shopper. Carry on. Both of you!
She will call me however with these brainstorms about what she would like to eat. She never did that before. Almost demanding. I feel she is anxious about meals now. Today she was asking for more tomatoes. She has 4 sitting in the bowl. Is she afraid of running out? She only eats a half one a day. Just something new for her. Not used to it I guess.