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Yes ...MEAN.....can be on their daily checklist.....followed by .....angelic..."who, me"?........flashes of innocence....and denial. Mean spiritedness can become a new hobby.
The best way to handle it is to take care of your own spiritual and health needs as well as theirs.......a sense of humor......a THICK skin......and a daily visit to this forum to reinforce the theory that you are not alone and it is NOT your fault!!!
Since your mom has dementia, I personally, wouldn't consider it possible to try to make her sweet, kind or easy to get along with. It's just not feasible. Their brain is not working properly, so trying to reason or create some kind of guilt in her is not likely to work. Even if it did work momentarily, she would likely forget about it and the lesson be lost. Therefore, I think that accepting the behavior as an illness and part of her disease is reasonable. Most people with dementia become difficult, resistant, and trying at times. I don't consider it a character flaw, but brain damage.
This is a hard journey for my mother, but it has been equally hard for me. My mother has always had a mean streak, so now that she has dementia how do I differenciate between her old "mean" streak, and is this something she can't help now? Trying now to just accept it all as part of her dementia. It's easier for me to cope when I think she can't help herself. I can be more patient and forgiving, even though at times I just have to leave rather than take her abuse. One thing that seems to be working in my favor is to just act like it never happened the next time we communicate. If I call with a pleasant voice, and demeanor, most of the time now it's as if it never happened. Does she even remember it happened? or does she remember and is just relieved that I'm letting her off the hook? I've come to believe it doesn't matter at all. My life is easier if I just act like everything is fine, and I'm trying to take care of me.
my mom who is 90 and living with us has started taking things from our house and hiding in her room, when found she denies it, acts so innocent and then becomes very mean. I make her sit in her room for awhile until she calms down and then I explain if she wants or needs something to please let me know not to just take it leaving me on a search hunt for what is missing. So far seems to work for me. Good luck
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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https://www.agingcare.com/articles/bad-behavior-by-elderly-parents-138673.htm
Yes ...MEAN.....can be on their daily checklist.....followed by .....angelic..."who, me"?........flashes of innocence....and denial. Mean spiritedness can become a new hobby.
The best way to handle it is to take care of your own spiritual and health needs as well as theirs.......a sense of humor......a THICK skin......and a daily visit to this forum to reinforce the theory that you are not alone and it is NOT your fault!!!
Trying now to just accept it all as part of her dementia. It's easier for me to cope when I think she can't help herself. I can be more patient and forgiving, even though at times I just have to leave rather than take her abuse. One thing that seems to be working in my favor is to just act like it never happened the next time we communicate. If I call with a pleasant voice, and demeanor, most of the time now it's as if it never happened. Does she even remember it happened? or does she remember and is just relieved that I'm letting her off the hook? I've come to believe it doesn't matter at all.
My life is easier if I just act like everything is fine, and I'm trying to take care of me.