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Being POA does not obligate you to pay for anything for the person, only to make decisions in their best interests when they cannot. Their funds pay for their needs. If your mother doesn’t have money to meet her needs, that’s when social service programs such as Medicaid come into use. You can choose to resign as POA, but don’t confuse paying for things with being POA
You should not be paying ANY of your funds EVER for another. What will you do when you don't have a whole lifetime of savings for your own aging? You will be where she is. Who will pay for YOU?
That said, your mother is competent. You are her POA, but you can resign that today with a simple letter of notification to your mother that you resign as her POA. That's all that is required when the principal is competent. You mother then can appoint another family member or a friend as her POA. POA doesn't mean that you have to pay for anything, and I am certain you understand that.
As to the state taking over for your mother? Why in the world would the state "take her over?" She is competent.
Simply resign your POA and tell your mother you cannot afford to give her more money. If she loses housing or some such she should call Adult Protective Agency or local council on aging. You are not responsible for your mother.
I agree with the others. Just send a note stating you are giving up POA to the attorney and your mom. I did this with my aunt. It was driving me crazy. Would you believe my family and my aunt thought that I should be paying for things? Not everything but SOME things. Aunt even sent the caregiver agency my way to pay for her. I told them absolutely no. She was responsible and she knew I had no access to her finances, so I didn't understand why she sent them my way to pay. I tell you, I will never accept POA for another person. I hadn't accepted hers. It was thrown on me without asking. If you find it to be a burden, give it up.
POA does not mean you are responsible financially or physically. Your responsibility is to handle the principles finances so bills get paid. You are not at the principles beck and call.
If Mom is competent, then she handles her own affairs. POA does not even come in till she is incompetent. I had immediate with my Mom. I felt it was a tool I could use to help her when needed. When she was diagnosed with Dementia, I did not have to worry about having a doctor declare her incompetent. I was able to do what needed to be done.
What are you paying for to keep Mom afloat? Does she still have a house? Maybe time to downsize. Her SS not enough? There is Supplimental Security Insurance that may help her. Your Social Service office can help you there also with resources. Your Office of Aging too.
Her assistant living and now nursing home. Assistant living ended up increasing over $1000 a month more than what she brings in and nursing home is harassing me because medicad has not picked up yet.
Don't give them a dime of your own money! Do not take her home with you either. Call the ombudsman, and APS. Tell them you are unable to care for her, that you don't have the resources or time. If you did somehow sign you would be financially responsible, it is possible the AL facility will sue. If that happens, fight it. Don't let them intimidate you, but if they do sue make sure you go to court and argue your case. Bankruptcy may be an option down the road, it all depends on the situation. Before that may or may not happen though contact APS and the ombudsman and tell them the situation, but do not take her home and do not go broke yourself.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Do not spend a single cent of your money on her care. Her financial issues are not your problem.
Hopefully you’ve not been foolish enough to bring her into your home. That never ends well.
That said, your mother is competent. You are her POA, but you can resign that today with a simple letter of notification to your mother that you resign as her POA. That's all that is required when the principal is competent.
You mother then can appoint another family member or a friend as her POA.
POA doesn't mean that you have to pay for anything, and I am certain you understand that.
As to the state taking over for your mother?
Why in the world would the state "take her over?"
She is competent.
Simply resign your POA and tell your mother you cannot afford to give her more money. If she loses housing or some such she should call Adult Protective Agency or local council on aging. You are not responsible for your mother.
I tell you, I will never accept POA for another person. I hadn't accepted hers. It was thrown on me without asking. If you find it to be a burden, give it up.
If Mom is competent, then she handles her own affairs. POA does not even come in till she is incompetent. I had immediate with my Mom. I felt it was a tool I could use to help her when needed. When she was diagnosed with Dementia, I did not have to worry about having a doctor declare her incompetent. I was able to do what needed to be done.
What are you paying for to keep Mom afloat? Does she still have a house? Maybe time to downsize. Her SS not enough? There is Supplimental Security Insurance that may help her. Your Social Service office can help you there also with resources. Your Office of Aging too.