I have Power of Attorney for my parents with dementia and have been caring for them with no help from my brother. I am not well and can't care for them anymore, so can I pass my Power of Attorney on to my brother?

I TOO HAVE 2 PARENTS WITH DEMENTIA, ONE IS 97 AND MOM IS 89. WE WERE VERY CLOSE, BUT SINCE THEY MOVED FROM N.Y. TO N.C., SINCE THEY MOVED CLOSER TO ME AND MY HUSABAND IN THEIR OWN CONDO, IT DIDN'T TAKE LONG TO DISCOVER THAT THEY BOTH HAVE DEMENTIA. I HAVE 3 SIBLINGS. WHO WANTED NOTHING TO DO IN ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM. TOGETHER WITH MY HUSBAND, WE DID IT ALL, MOVING THEM FROM NY TO N.C. IN A BEAUTIFUL CONDO. THEY HAVE BECOME IMPOSSIBLE TO DEAL WITH. PARANOIA, MISTRUST EVERYTHING WE SAY AND DO. THEY FORGET WHAT REALLY TOOK PLACE. AGITATION TO THE POINT OF CLENCHING FISTS, AND BANGING WALLS. SCREAMING AND YELLING AT BOTH OF US. BECOMES FIXATED ON A DELUSION. RECENTLY, MY MOTHER CALLED MY BROTHER IN GA., AND TOLD HIM ALL SORTS OF THINGS, WHICH COMES FROM HER LACK OF MEMORY, AND RATIONAL COGNITIVE THINKING, DECISION MAKING, AND THE LIST GOES ON. AFTER CALLING MY BROTHER, WHO TOLD ME HE WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH THEIR CARE, AND WILL NOT GIVE UP ONE DAY OF HIS LIFE TOWARDS. HE SAID, HE IS NOTUP FOR A CRUSADE. NOW, AFTER 3 YRS, AND WHATEVER MY MOTHER SAID IN HER PHONE CALL TO HIM, HE IS NOW ON A "CRUSADE". SAW A BIG DIFFERENCE IN HOW MY MOTHER NOW RELATES TO ME. DIFFERENT FROM ALL THE OTHER STUFF. ANYWAY, HE NEVER CALLED ME TO TALK TO ME ABOUT HER PHONE CALL, AS HE SAID MY MOTHER DID NOT WANT ME TO KNOW, AND HE DOESN'T LIE. HE CAME UP, AND NEXT THING I KNOW, HE HIRED A ELDER LAW ATTORNEY, AS ONE OF HER COMPLAINTS WAS THAT SHE WANTED TO CHANGE HER WILL, WHICH I WAS AWARE OF. ONE NIGHT SHE CALLED ME OUT OF THE BLUE, SCREAMING AND YELLING, THAT SHE NEVER DREW UP THIS WILL, DOESN'T UNDERSTAND IT. SHE NEVER WENT TO THE LAWYER, AND IT GOES ON. ALL OF THIS IS UNTRUE. HOW COULD THE WILL BE WITNESSED WITH THEIR SIGNATURES, IF THEY NEVER WENT TO THE LAWYERS OFFICE. MY HUSBAND AND I ARE JUMPING THROUGH HOOPS FOR THE BOTH OF THEM, ( STEP-FATHER OF 21 YRS, AND IS 97YRS OLD) AND NOTHING SEEMS TO BE RIGHT. ALWAYS HAD A VERY CLOSE RELATIONSHIP WITH MY MOTHER, AND MY OTHER 3 SIBLINGS, WENT ABOUT THEIR LIFE, AND NEVER GAVE THEM A SECOND THOUGHT. THEIR BIG CONTRIBUTION, WAS TO SEND COOKIES, FLOWERS, OR CANDY AT XMAS TIME. MY QUESTION IS THIS: I HAVE POA, AND I HAVE HAD ENOUGH. SINCE MY MOTHER THINKS MY BROTHER IS THE PRODICAL SON, CAN I JUST SEND ALL RECORDS, BILLS THAT WE PAY, APPOINTMENTS TO DOCTORS, THAT WE TAKE THEM TO, PRESCRIPTIONS THAT I MAIL AWAY FOR THEM, AND MUCH, MUCH MORE. I HAVE HAD IT. I AM GETTING SICK, AND SO IS MY HUSBAND, AND HE IS NOT A WELL MAN. CAN I RELINQUISH POA, AND SEND EVERYTHING TO HIM, AND JUST SAY, HERE IT IS, I'M DONE. IT REALLY IS A SHAME BECAUSE BETWEEN THE FOUR OF US, WE NEVER HAD A FALLING OUT. NOW WE ARE NOT SPEAKING, SINCE MY MOTHER CALLED MY BROTHER TELLING HIM, I DON'T KNOW WHAT, AS HE IS NOT FORTH COMING WITH ANYTHING. THEY LIVE 2 MINUTES FROM ME, SO TO SPEAK, THEY ARE LIVING IN MY BACKYARD, AND I HAVE A CONSCIENCE THAT NEVER QUITS, BUT I DID LET MY BROTHER KNOW VIA E-MAIL THAT I AM DONE. ALL HE HAS DONE SO FAR IS ASK ME TO GIVE MY MOTHER A $500.00 CHECK TO RETAIN THIS LAWYER AND GIVE IT TO MY MOTHER. I DON'T KNOW ANYTHING ELSE, BUT I DO WANT OUT, AND HE KNOWS IT. CAN I LEGALLY, SINCE MY POA IS STILL IN MY NAME, JUST PACK ALL RECORDS, BILLS, ETC. UP, SEND IT TO HIM, AND SAY, HERE, I'M DONE. YOU DO IT ALL NOW THE SAME WAY I DID, AND DIDN'T EVEN GET A PHONE CALL TO SEE HOW MY HUSBAND AND I WERE MAKING OUT. I CANNOT BELIEVE MY MOTHER IS DOING THIS TO ME, AND FEELS THE WAY SHE DOES TOWARDS ME AND MY HUSBAND. I KNEW THIS WAS GOING TO BE HARD, BUT NEVER DID I THINK I WAS GOING TO DEAL WITH THIS. I HAVE A DCOTRS LETTER FROM THEIR PRIMARY CARE DOCTOR, BASICALLY SAYING THAT THEY BOTH HAVE DEMENTIA, AND ARE NOT OF SOUND MIND AND BODY. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE. I WANT OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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