MY PARENTS ARE FUNNELING MONEY INTO MY NIECE LIKE WATER FROM A BUCKET. MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE SERIOUS HEALTH PROBLEMS WE ARE NOT ABLE TO DO 24/7 CARE. MY MOM SITS AND WHINES BUT REFUSES TO GO THE HOSPITAL TO SEE IF ANYTHING IS WRONG WITH HER. SHE LIES, SHE SAYS ONE THING AND TELLS SOMEONE ELSE A DIFFERENT LIE. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO . I AM READY TO GET COURT ORDERS FOR INCOMPETENCY.
I think emjo is right. It sounds to me like she might being using health complaints as a way to manipulate others but when she is called on it she says it's gone. My father does the same thing all the time and for the longest time I bought into it and it overwhelmed me and my health. Do a Social Service check like was suggested and focus on doing what you can to take care of yourself and your husband. Once you find out any legitimate problem then figure out the best course of action. Just don't do anything at the expense of your own physical, mental and emotional health. If it's something you can't handle then do what you can to see that she is cared for by professionals. There is no shame in standing up for your well being and helping her in the best way for both of you. You have to love and care for yourself first, then you can do more for others. Love to you.
Cricket
Take care of yourself, too.
Carol