No matter how much I say or the devastation it causes. Most caregivers don't seem to treat this as a real job. They ack like it's ok to be late, or worse, not show up at all. They always have some big emergency, but I know they're lying most of the time. They know I can't check up on them, and the State doesn't, so they lie. They couldn't get away with this if they worked at McDonalds, or other places. I try to explain how devastating it can be when they don't show up, and they completely agree and swear they would never do such a thing. But, it isn't long until they do it again. They just make up more elaberate lies. I have been struggling with this for many years, and have gone through probably close to 100 caregivers. How can I get around this. I'm constantly training someone new, and it takes everything out of me to train someone. But I'm having to do it 3 times this month, for example. I cannot keep this up. What can I do to make this stop.
If you've had close to 100 caregivers, I think there must be something about your interaction with them that isn't being shared in your post, and it could be your attitude toward them.
You'll need to provide more information on your situation, your medical issues, and why you need caregivers as your post doesn't address this, just your perception that they're "lying."
There's something very wrong with going through 3 caregivers a month.
If they are just not really professional, and are never going to be, but you need them anyways and you have no option to change agencies, you could start making really good brownies, cookies, or cupcakes which would basically bribe them to show up early. You'd be amazed what flattery and food can do even if it seems hopelessly transparent to you to be doing it that way.
I try to meet and greet as many as I can, and usually after some conversation about life in general, I wind up giving the gals a hug and the fellows a hand shake while I leave to head back home. I let the caregivers do what they think is best.... if they have any questions or suggestions they can relay them to me... and Dad is quite pleased with the care he is getting. Knock on wood, the agency hasn't let me down yet without filling a shift.
Each caregiver has his/her own specialty, like couple of the caregivers love to cook so they cook from scratch. Another is great at keeping the house organized and believe me Dad can mess it up real quickly. Another keeps Dad in conversation. Some are mother hens watching over Dad... another is a young fellow who will elbow Dad saying "hey, Pops, that girl is quite attractive" when this young single fellow saw Dad's doctor's nurse :)
As for caregivers who I thought weren't a good match for my Dad, there have been only two so far.
She made fudge for the policemen!