My marriage is suffering because my husband is now retired (65) and was looking forward to going out together and doing things most retired couples do. I myself am 60 with ongoing medical problems (several herniated discs in lower spine and just days ago tore or ruptured my rotator cuff in the left shoulder) and I am getting so tired of trying to do everything for everyone while suffering through my own pain. We used to go out with our grandchildren (2 boys - aged 13 and11) but can no longer do that because mom needs constant care and can't be left on her own, even for a short while. Not much money for help. If anyone has any helpful suggestions I would be eternally grateful. Thanks so much just for taking the time to read this post.
One out of every 3 caregiver dies leaving behind the person they were caring. Then the elder who was being cared for moves into a continuing care facility to live a couple more years. In the mean time the husband no longer has a wife, the children no longer have a mother..... and Mom is being cared for by paid professionals, enjoying meals with others in the dining room, and enjoying activities with people of her own age group if she is still mobile and clear mind.
One suggestion is to check with Medicaid to see what is available for Mom, if she qualifies for Medicaid.... there's nothing wrong with searching out other options.