Mom is in a NH thousands of miles away. First visit she asked for help to go to the bathroom. She wanted me to stay while she tried to have a BM. There was no odor but the mere thought of it sent me wrenching. I just about threw up and had to leave to get a NH employee to help. I am so ashamed that I couldn't deal with it. Never had kids but can clean up after my pets without such s reaction. Just wanted to know if others have faced this. I'd it possible that some people just can't do this no matter what? I felt so bad.
I think it is shyness. I never physically shared a bathroom with my ex-husband, nor with my sig other. And never shared a bathroom with a sibling growing up.
In fact, when my Mom was in long-term-care and her undergarment needing changing, I would find a Nurse/Aide... then I would leave the room until the Nurse/Aide was finished.
BTW, you got her to the toilet, there was no need for you to stay and be the cheering section, you should have told her you would wait in her room until she was done.