I am 1 of 4 siblings. One other lives close and dose minimum. I am thr primary care giver. I am trying to build a relationship, work, do my volunteer work and be there for mom but, it's not enough. She is depressed and sad. I feel so guilty I can't stand it but, also resenting her neediness.
I feel very stressed out. I don't sleep. It is affecting everything. I am afraid I will have to give up my new relationship.
Have you talked to her doctor? Is she on medication for depression? Maybe, you could explore that. Medication really helped my loved one's mood and she is much more content.
Also, has she always been so needy and unhappy? Is she getting the assistance she needs at Independent Living? Maybe, she needs more assistance than she's getting. That can make people anxious and needy, because they are scared. If you know that she getting her needs met, you might feel less stressed and not so overwhelmed. I'd try to figure this out. There are only so many hours in the day. Not sleeping and stressing is bad on your health. Take care of yourself too.