I have been a caregiver for my mother for the past 10 years. This has been a challenge since I am a widow and living on a single income. I have 2 other siblings and a few years ago sat them down and told them it was no longer just my responsibility and asked for their help. Neither wanted her to live with them so she is living with me but both agreed to provide $100/mo towards expenses. This in no way pays for her expenses but it was something. Now one sibling has just quit paying and says it isn't her responsibility. Can anyone suggest how I can get her to continue her part, are there any legal avenues, etc. I am at my wits end over this and of course it is disrupting the family as we are now divided over this. Help
Blessings,
Carol
Carol
TRACY
Hold on to the good memories you have of your dad and mom. Let your heart rest knowing the good you have done. It sounds like you have a good relationship with your husband. Nurture it. Bask in it. Let that love heal your wounds and carry you into tomorrow. Your parents were blessed to have someone like you be there for them. Service like that helps you get fitted for angel wings. Can't say that about your siblings, though, can we?
For breaks apply for respite grants. That way you can have time for yourself. Just don't fight over it.
I too am going through the same thing with my sibilings, I have asked for help, and been paying out of pocket for expenses for my Dad. I have 3 adult sibilings, who live less than a mile from our Dad, I live 30 miles away and have been residing with my Dad since he was released from the hospital August 22 of 2008. My sibilings don't even stop by to assist me with a thing, I have even asked for a couple nights off to spend sometime at home with my husband, but all I hear is we have plans, it has caused so much tension with my sibilings that if I do see them it becomes a shouting match. I wish I has some answers for you, but like me, I am at a lost for a solution. Hopefully someone on this website will give some insight to this. Good luck to you.