OH gosh, I'm at my wits end! My husband is suffering from the beginning of dementia, keeps ordering things (junk) online. He is a 75 yr old vet and smokes and drinks (that isn't helping his memory) But how can I stop him from ordering stuff online?
I have to call so many companies lately and explain, sometimes they credit but sometimes they DONT. Getting costly.
I even blacked out the 3 digits numbers on the back of cc he uses the most and he still was able to use it online? I would love if someone else has a suggestion!
PS if you are the wife of a vet, and he docs can show he cannot manage money, you can become appointed spouse fiduciary.
Retired from Visa quite a while ago. He was a super intelligent , frugal man.
Its very hard to watch him go down:((
Aren't there child protections on computers where you can set only what you want him to be able to get too. Just set up his regular sites, like email. When he complains something is wrong, tell him sorry I have no idea how to fix it. If he tells you to get it fixed, then act like your taking it and don't. When he asks when r you getting it back tell him it was unfixable. Put off getting another one. After a while hope he forgets.
I also made sure to throw away or donate as much as possible and frequently so he could continue to shop at thrift store. A lot that stuff was useless but I could just donate it in a few months later and then he got more stuff. Never seemed to miss anything and the waste of a few dollars here and there is no big.
Finally, to appeal to the thrill factor started getting lottery tickets every so often.
Which seemed to satisfy his persistent "get rich quick" itch. Ironically his spending
continued at a lower level, but still pretty persistent. The main difference was there was no longer expensive junk or monthly billing for scams. So it was a good
savings and he still had satisfying shopping experiences.
boredom:((
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