November 2019, Mom went to ER after what appeared to be a stroke just after parking at a bank. She hadn’t taken diabetes medication or testing sugars daily, claiming family doctor didn’t tell her. After my explaining the many changes in Mom’s behavior to attending doctoring hospital, a psych and neuro eval was done, resulting in mild neurocognitive decline diagnosis. She received an order banning driving till assessment was made. The problem was no one, from the ER doctor to the neurologist to the psychiatrist to the patient advocate of the hospital, processed paperwork to the state. We took her keys. Her follow up with the new PCP resulted in passing the buck to the neurologist who didn’t process the paperwork to the state, either. I wrote a letter to the department of transportation in February, heard nothing and resent it a couple months ago. Today I received a call asking me to confirm mom’s info and that she will be receiving paperwork to take to her PCP.
Has anyone experienced their loved one not following through with the paperwork, or ignoring it? I doubt she will tell me she received it.
One month gone. One to go!
It seems to me that if there is any question about her ability to drive the paperwork sent to her would be some kind of request for her doctor to certify her fit to drive and perhaps a notice to report for a driver's test, so if she ignores that the default would be a loss of her licence, not the opposite. But then who knows, gov't bureaucracies works in mysterious ways...
Would DMV follow up with her if, after a certain amount of time, they dont get the paperwork from the primary ?
The DMV will request the doctor to fill out a form that gives the thumbs up for driving or against.
If the DMV is not satisfied with the dr report they will require her to come in for testing. If it is ignored they will suspend the license until such time that the instructions are followed.
Best of luck keeping her safe.
Well done! For getting this process set in motion.
Continued non-communication from her - didn’t come for Thanksgiving or Christmas, even though 10 mins. away and I would get her.
Dad died 8 years ago today. Just sad. Called mom, as last year she “knew Dad died this week”, but didn’t remember it was THAT day. She said her and her brother were to go to the Cemetary today and visit Dad. Of course,I’m trying not to be hurt that she didn’t include me, but her brother (who has been around more often than not since Dad passed).
sh—-y day.
Thanks for listening. Good to type my feelings here, knowing people who understand this are reading.
Driving issue: you can go online to DMV site and anonymously send info detailing reasons why she shouldn't be driving. The state will probs call her in for eye or street test. If she fails, you're not the bad guy. If her driving is scary right now, please remove her car on pretense of maintenance or mechanical problems and just keep it and keys. "Taking keys from her" will be very contentious so finesse it if you can.
Do you have all her info in one place/recorded? All her important paperwork: legal, financial, medical, personal? A fire-proof safe in her own home can work to consolidate it all together (but best to scan or photocopy critical ones as your mom's cognitive condition changes and causes her to "rearrange" or lose stuff. I'm an only also and have done this with my mom. Good luck!
We took key sets from her home while she was in the hospital. Problem came when, at her follow up with neuro from ER, she wanted a ‘private’ meeting with doc. AFTERWARDS, I was ‘allowed’ in. By that time she had the doc around her finger. He didn’t remember she was given a scrip for driving eval in the hospital. We continue to hold onto her keys, but believe she went to car dealer and purchased key fob(s), paying a few hundred dollars for them ($ she doesn’t have). Contacted DMV in Feb. and just called me the other day to confirm her address to mail papers for her PCP. I’m not so sure she will follow through with the paperwork and will disregard it.
I don't know Drs. are hesitant to report to the DMV. It should be a law that they have to.
Get to your real question. There is lots in-between?