I was wondering if anyone feels the same as I do just now. My mum is 82 and lives alone and has Carers coming in. She hasn’t been out the house for over a year and has the heating up full all day and night long. She won’t open a window and is starting to get mixed up when you tell her things. I get her shopping and always give her the receipt and she called me late tonight to ask what an item was and I told her it was her cheese. She now thinks that I am putting items on her shopping list for myself. I’m getting to the stage as I have a full time job that she is stressing me out and I feel I don’t want to do things for her. Now she is so ungrateful and I don’t want this in my life anymore. Sorry but just felt I had to tell someone. Thank you.
I like the idea of having her groceries delivered, if that's an option. Why not try it?
Good luck to you!
Daddy never complained. Mom would criticize a lot.
I really feel like daughters take the biggest hits.
Anyway, I started calling from the store if they were out of her favorite brand of this or that.
I asked if she wanted something else. Nope, so off to another store I would go.
It is a pain in the butt! I feel for you.
So, along comes a strong storm. A real big storm, Hurricane Katrina and it destroyed her home. I moved mom in with us.
I was so naive back then that I thought it would be easier to have her live with us because I wouldn’t have to go back and forth to her house.
Guess what? I was still driving to two and three stores, making returns, etc. It had to be the PINK Oil of Olay!
How many hours are spent at the doctor’s office too?
I think that all of us who have done shopping for our mom’s and other errands too will surely empathize with you.
If you feel that your mom is no longer able to be able to live in her home, placing her in a facility will help both of you tremendously.
In a facility, meals are prepared and if you are lucky, she won’t complain about the food.
I’m curious. Does she complain with others like she does with you? My mom is kind to her caregivers at her hospice house. I am glad.
Now, my godmother who had ALZ was mean to her caregivers at her nursing home.
I hate to say this but my godmother was always mean, long before her dementia. Everyone is different.
Don’t hesitate to take advantage of anything that will help you keep your sanity and you will find comfort in knowing that your mom is cared for without the entire burden on you.
Even if your mom has caregivers at her home, she most likely will need further care down the line. It wouldn’t hurt to start inquiring about facilities for her to live in.
Best wishes to you and your family.
Have you considered having groceries delivered to her?
How often do you go shopping for her? Delivery services aren’t very expensive and it will be worth the extra money if you are stressed out by doing her shopping.
Then you can visit on your own terms when you desire.
I would recommend that you watch some of Teepa Snows videos on YouTube on how to deal with a person with Alzheimer's/dementia, as education is the key to understanding when dealing with someone with mental decline.
If her care is getting to be too much for you, perhaps it's best to get someone else to take over the duties from you, or it may be time to have her placed in the appropriate facility. I wish you well.